forum Your Personal Venting Space 3: Tokyo Drift
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@Pickles group

Then maybe get off the internet and eat something salty or sweet and contemplate.

No no. A lot of the problem is that I'm not keeping up with everything happening right now and everyone's online and chatting up a storm. I can't miss it. It would be so much worse to have to read through everything way after the fact

@ccb group

@Brooklyn_Is_Here

You are valid
Your feelings are valid
You are worth more than you know
You dealt with some shit today so that's understandable

Take a break, go get a snack or some dinner
Cuddle up in a blanket and watch a movie
Get some sleep
Take some time for yourself darling

Notebook.Ai will be here when you get back

(Also if you need someone to talk to my PMs are always open !)

@Pickles group

Dear paranoia: could you not? What do you even want? I don't listen to true crime podcasts for a while, you skyrocket. I go on a little binge and you skyrocket. I listen to one and a half a day and you wait a month to skyrocket. Go a w a y

@Brooklyn_Is_Here

Sucks, my guy. But I bet you have a good person inside of you. And that's what matters.

there in lays the problem.
I don't know how to say no
Some one wants to be my boyfriend
I can't say no
Someone wants to be toxic to be in irl
I can't say no
People harass me?
I. can't. say. no

see the thing is that every school has that girl who hooks up with every guy, well that's me except I don't like any of them and just don't know how to say NO.

@saor_illust school

Sucks, my guy. But I bet you have a good person inside of you. And that's what matters.

there in lays the problem.
I don't know how to say no
Some one wants to be my boyfriend
I can't say no
Someone wants to be toxic to be in irl
I can't say no
People harass me?
I. can't. say. no

see the thing is that every school has that girl who hooks up with every guy, well that's me except I don't like any of them and just don't know how to say NO.

the iz comes outta hiding cause she relates to something here
listen, i get it
i've dealt with all of those things before
it's hard saying no
i do know that
but you know what?
you are better than those people you want to say no to.
they are not making anyone's life better by those specific decisions.

so let's start, one thing at a time, shall we?
and while it's certainly easier to cut off toxic friends online,
you can still do it irl
so make it clear the that "friend" that you and them are not friends anymore.
do not let them guilt trip you
do not let them trick you into staying
no matter what they say
no matter what they threaten
no matter what they do to try to get you stay with them
you must make it clear that the two of you are not friends anymore

then,
you can start ignoring them
i don't care what they say
under no circumstances are you allowed to be friends with them for a good year.
i only set a time limit because maybe in that time they've changed
and maybe they haven't
but if you decide to go back to them?
be on your best guard
be prepared to repeat these steps whenever you suspect that they haven't changed

and if you don't decide to go back?
that's good for you
you've conquered your toxic friend
you've shown the whole world, even if most of the world hasn't seen it yet, that you can stand up to toxic friends
and you can do this.
it's hard,
it truly is
and you might feel guilty for awhile afterwards
i get that
i went back to my toxic friend a total of three times
but did they ever change?
…no
it took me three times to realise that they were no good for me and i'd have to cut them out for good

i believe in you brooklyn!!!
<3333

@Relsey-TheElder

Brooklyn I think that Dom asked the right question earlier, why is it you feel this way.
I think we all know what a weed is, it easily spreads , usually invasive and once it's there it's hard to get rid of. I think this issue you have is a lot like a weed. you can chop at this weed forever but it will just keep coming back. What you don't see is the massive network of roots this weed has going on under the surface, it has woven it's self deep into the soil and it is going to take some serious work to get it out of there. when you're dealing with weeds to don't go for the stem, you go for the roots.
So you have to figure out the roots of this need to say yes to people is. I know what mine is. I don't want to be alone, it terrifies me. I am the most contradictory introvert the world has ever seen, As much as I detest social interaction I am terrified of being left with out emotional connection. This manifests it's self as me being unable to let go of relationships I've already formed, even if they aren't healthy, that is my weed, and the root is an insecurity. You know what, I wont be alone, I have a pretty fabulous sister two or four of them actually, and I know that I will always have a place with them. That's how I can rip out the roots.
Your weed is an inability to say no, what is it's root. You can rip at the stalks of that weed as much as you want, but if you want it to go away you have to attack the roots.
(I apologize, not my best analogy , I've been running on 4 hours of sleep and In-In-Out for the past week)

@SebastianBarnes

Hey yall apparently the CIA dropped some documents that say we live in a "energy holorgram" and need to be prepared to see "non-corporeal energy forms" I think this is another check on the apocalypse bingo

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Hey yall apparently the CIA dropped some documents that say we live in a "energy holorgram" and need to be prepared to see "non-corporeal energy forms" I think this is another check on the apocalypse bingo

What O.O

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Why can't my mom remember what foods I like and don't like? She's made oatmal for breakfast five times now and every time I say "I don't like oatmeal, remember?" and she says "I thought you said you did?" Same thing with tomatoes and non fishstick fish. You only have me to cook for, how hard is it to keep track xD Not a big deal though. Just a funny vent.

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I’m so over waking up unsatisfied. I’m over sleeping for over nine fucking hours and still opening my eyes feeling as if I got two seconds of sleep as opposed to the nine. I’m tired of struggling to get out of bed because I know it’ll be painful. I’m tired of the shoulder and neck pain, I’m tired of the physical aches my body has in the morning that no dose of ibuprofen can help. It’s always there. I want my left shoulder to stop hurting already. I want my back to be as young and limber as it should be. I don’t want my calves to ache anymore. Why doesn’t anything work anymore

@Brooklyn_Is_Here

Brooklyn I think that Dom asked the right question earlier, why is it you feel this way.
I think we all know what a weed is, it easily spreads , usually invasive and once it's there it's hard to get rid of. I think this issue you have is a lot like a weed. you can chop at this weed forever but it will just keep coming back. What you don't see is the massive network of roots this weed has going on under the surface, it has woven it's self deep into the soil and it is going to take some serious work to get it out of there. when you're dealing with weeds to don't go for the stem, you go for the roots.
So you have to figure out the roots of this need to say yes to people is. I know what mine is. I don't want to be alone, it terrifies me. I am the most contradictory introvert the world has ever seen, As much as I detest social interaction I am terrified of being left with out emotional connection. This manifests it's self as me being unable to let go of relationships I've already formed, even if they aren't healthy, that is my weed, and the root is an insecurity. You know what, I wont be alone, I have a pretty fabulous sister two or four of them actually, and I know that I will always have a place with them. That's how I can rip out the roots.
Your weed is an inability to say no, what is it's root. You can rip at the stalks of that weed as much as you want, but if you want it to go away you have to attack the roots.
(I apologize, not my best analogy , I've been running on 4 hours of sleep and In-In-Out for the past week)

I think it has to do with the fact that I grew up in an Asian household. I was always taught to be soft-spoken, kind, and submissive. Naturally, I try and break out of that and I'm more out-spoken then my whole family. When It comes down to saying no, there is always a lot of pressure to say yes or to try and let them off as gently as possible When it comes down to relationships, I can't say no out of the fear of running the relationship and what we have.

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I actually feel you on that Brooklyn. I come from a hispanic household and it's basically the same thing. Even now, I'm being taught to take whatever shit my family throws at me, but there comes a time where you snap dude. You have to set boundaries or you'll just get taken advantage of because parent's think they own you half of the time. Or at least, that's how it was in my experience. The way I snapped was not the healthiest and it completely broke my relationship with my mother. Now I'm just full of anger and bitterness. There's not even a hint of sadness in me anymore.
The people who knew me from two years ago on this site can tell I've been through a drastic change. Sure, I was probably better off not defying my mother- and I may or may not have cried for ruining the one thing I had left, but it was the only way. I tried to set boundaries the peaceful way, but when she wouldn't listen I had to yell and get physical, because enough was enough.
You're growing Brooklyn, into an adult. And as an adult you have to be willing to make sacrifices. No family, no friendship, nothing- should be put over your happiness, your health. Because when you do, it ends up fucking with your head.
And hey, maybe it's just me saying this because I literally have no one who cares left in my life, but it shouldn't matter if you end up messing your relationships up a little if it means that you will be safe and happy. You can always work to fix them over time, and besides, if they're your family or any relationship for that matter, they more than anyone should understand. If they don't and give you hell for it, then I'm sorry to say this but maybe they don't have your best interests in mind. Of course, when I say this I don't mean for miniscule things, I'm talking about having your own space when you need it without them interrupting, staying out of your stuff, and not forcing you to do things you don't want to do.
Standing up to your family is probably one of the most hardest things you will ever do. I know it was for me. There will be disagreements, there will most likely be yelling (if your parents are that type) and it might get physcial as well.
All in all, when too much oversteps boundaries you're not comfortable with you have to be willing to put your foot down. Sometimes you have to be firm in the way you say things or else they won't get the hint and keep doing the same things over and over again.
I may have just gone on a tangent that will probably mean absolutely nothing to you, but it all starts with family man. Once you're able to stand up to your family, you'll find it much easier to say "no" to some of the other things. But take my words with a grain of salt because half of the time I don't even know what I say.

@Relsey-TheElder

(Sorry if I'm interrupting anything)
I just got my AP scores back and while Chemistry was a 2, we all expected that, I got a 4 for both English and History so, yay me.

@evastardust groupRRAAAARRL

(Sorry if I'm interrupting anything)
I just got my AP scores back and while Chemistry was a 2, we all expected that, I got a 4 for both English and History so, yay me.

Congrats!! I only had one (APUSH) and I pulled a 5!