forum Your Personal Venting Space 3: Tokyo Drift

Started June 28, 2020 by @The-N-U-T-Cracker

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My mom can't be on time to save her fucking life and I'm so sick of it because she makes me late all the time and I can't do anything about it. Everyone looks at me funny when I walk into class late and I'm just like y'all, I don't drive myself, what do you want from me.

mood, my parents always make me late to things too and i can't do anything about it :/

Yeah, definitely had that problem a lot growing up. Have either of you brought it up with your parents, if it's something that can be helped?

my mom just blames it on me lmao

Same, she's like either mad at me for complaining about it like "i'm doing the best i can" or she'll say something like "well maybe if you helped me we could get out the door sooner." which i already do help her in the mornings and it doesn't help much. last year i got detention for being late so much so she started being on time after that but then this year came around and it's the same shit all over again.

Am I having a mental breakdown over my math test because I'm doing everything right and using the right equations but still not getting the right answers and so I'm questioning everything and crying and even though I should just accept that I'm going to fail because it's due in 2 hours and I still need to work on my photo project that my friends bailed out on at the last second, I can't seem to do it because my mom will get pissed at me and I'm already failing my math class so if I do bad on this test then I'll just bring my grade even lower and my mom will hate me. Yes, Yes I am

I'm scared of the ✨future✨

Mood.

hnnnn
my Extremely Conservative school is preaching about how evil and horrible a minimum wage raise would be in all of the business classes and I hate it
Not even looking at the pros except saying it'll make people feel better

ok so
vent story time wooo
cw: death threats, homophobia, mention of vomit

Spoiler - click to show.

guess who finally found out they have a homophobe at their school? yes, that's right, me. some guy (we'll call him Xander for this cuz privacy issues) decided to start makin' fun of me for liking girls and going on about how girls can't like girls (god that argument is iconic) and just.. it started off simple, with small insults but soon enough, i started getting anonymous death threats in my locker and stuff, which after reading, made me want to puke. i couldn't stand seeing the stuff that was being told to me (not stating what the notes said for obvious reasons). i wanna go to my school and tell them about this and that i have a nagging feeling i know who is putting these notes in my locker, but i'm just so nervous that if i do, it'll escalate. and it's not just that either. Xander, the homophobe, started sending me roses with notes that contradict all of the death threats he sent (assuming he sent them, but it's likely that he's the one leaving the anonymous notes cuz i dunno any other homophobes at my school) , with notes on the roses saying things like "i love you" and "i'll protect you" like??????? you're putting my life in danger????????? then telling me you love me???????????? like wtf dude

but yeah there's that. hopefully i'll get it resolved soon but for now, my anxiety about the whole situation has spiked

Rip off all the petals off each time and shove them in his locker

Okay, so I look around my school and see the couples and I'm like, DAMN must be nice to have someone who wo'nt fucking hurt you mentally physically or verbally

I know right. It's so fucked because I don't even know many people whose relationships don't involve some sort of abuse. I like to take pride in mine because it's not like that, that's one thing I won't ever deal with.

My mom keeps telling me shit about how she doesn't want me getting a job because then I won't be interested in being a doctor. She also doesn't want me to get into hobbies so I won't lose interest. It's so annoying because I don't even think it's what I want to do and when I tried telling her to consider other jobs, she just said they don't fit my personality.

That's uhhh
That's fucked up.
Hobbies =/= job. You need them to unwind, and engaging in hobbies you enjoy is an important way to cope.
Also I wanted to be a doctor for the longest time, and if you are half-hearted about your studies, you're not going to be happy or successful.
ALSO if you want a job now working retail or food service, that's literally not a permanent job in your case, and not something you're going to enjoy or pursue as a career path.
I'm very sorry you're going through this. I can't say I've been there exactly, but there were high expectations from my family to become a doctor, and now that I've changed my path, my grandparents won't stop pestering me about how on earth I'm going to make good money.

You ever be having a literal crisis but at the same time laughing your butt off at dumb memes
Like yeah I'm having a panic attack but these do be funny, I c a n n o t deny it

Idthink I’ve ever had a legit panic attack but kinda mood.

I was out of town all weekend and was basically in the middle of nowhere for filming and couldn't do my homework, but I cam back all sunburnt and pretty sure with a screwed up shoulder and finished all my homework when I was reminded that I have to make a photo resume and pick out like 5 best of shows for competition and I have never done it before and at the same time, I'm trying to set up a dentist, doctor, eye, hair appointments, planning out my friends 18th birthday gift, and helping kids with the service project I'm in charge of and praying that my teachers update my grades. I just want this day to end

You ever be having a literal crisis but at the same time laughing your butt off at dumb memes
Like yeah I'm having a panic attack but these do be funny, I c a n n o t deny it

how did you manage to do that lol
i had probably my first (or second) one this early morning and idk i was too terrified to do anything else but panic ahah

okay, update on the school situation
cw: stalking, continued death threats, mention of r*pe

so uh yeah my weekend sucked :')

Okay I have no idea if this is actually good advice, if it's not then someone please say something, but if I was in your situation I would at least tell someone. And if you have a pocket knife or something, just in case he tries to pull something nasty, keep it in your pocket. Idk if your school has a metal detector, I've heard some do?? Or just something you can use to defend yourself. Does your school have a counselor or someone you can talk to about it? Just because he hasn't done anything to physically harm you doesn't make this any less alarming, and they may be able to do something about it.

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this guy who asked my friends if I was single than asked my friends for my number has been following me around school and I'm weirded out
he invited himself into our lunchgroup and I'm trying to be nice but,,, it's really creepy

Okay I have no idea if this is actually good advice, if it's not then someone please say something, but if I was in your situation I would at least tell someone. And if you have a pocket knife or something, just in case he tries to pull something nasty, keep it in your pocket. Idk if your school has a metal detector, I've heard some do?? Or just something you can use to defend yourself. Does your school have a counselor or someone you can talk to about it? Just because he hasn't done anything to physically harm you doesn't make this any less alarming, and they may be able to do something about it.

yeah i've been considering keeping some sort of knife on me. a pocket knife may work best in my situation… and my school doesn't have metal detectors, so i might consider actually bringing it to school with me. and with the opening up part… that isn't gonna be easy. i'm doing trauma screens with my school therapist so i haven't found the time to bring it up with her, and the counselors have been busy and my anxiety loves to go "bweep bwop" when i talk to them, so… yeah. i've also considered clearing this information with the principal, but my anxiety does the same thing it does with the counselors, especially since i've gotten in trouble with my principal a few times so i doubt he'll trust me now. the only person i've told the whole story to is my aunt, and she's gonna have me stay at her place starting later today (i have to go to her house in like an hour). so yeah, i think things are gonna get better now that my aunt is involved- she's dealt with situations like this herself (i know this cuz she told me about it when i told her about my situation). and thanks for the advice!

I'm glad that it sounds like things might get better for you. Good luck, and be safe!!

Listen my guy, threats are something that you absolutely can go to the police for. And should. I repeat contact the police. It is a crime to threaten bodily harm/property damage, though the charge for it varies depending on which state you're in. In the mean time, tell a friend what's going on, just to inform them. Then, when you go to school tomorrow, be aware of your surroundings. I know it's difficult to report these kinds of things, but waiting until he does something 911-worthy is a very bad idea. You have to go straight to the principals or counseling office or wherever you need to go to talk to whoever's in charge. If you want, you could bring a friend or go to your favorite teacher first and ask them to come with you. But you have to tell an adult. Your school should call the police in once you tell your story. I know it's scary and it sucks this is happening to you. I know you don't wanna go in and make a fuss and you just want it to go away. But the only way for it to go away is to get adults involved. Good luck.

Ok, didn't get to read those while I was typing ^
It's good your aunt is involved. I hope you find the time to talk with your counselor.

I think everyone else put it pretty well, but to reiterate, threats are indeed reportable to police.

Trust me, carrying a pocket knife is worth it. I can not even count how many times I've been catcalled and shit like that during school. I've pulled a knife on multiple creeps and that has earned me a pretty solid reputation.

You do need to be careful with that though. I don't know how strict your school officials are and only you can ultimately make that call.
If you're not comfy carrying a knife, they do make hard plastic self defense tools that you can put on a keychain. They're meant for stabbing as well, and they're a lot more subtle.

It is technically illegal to carry knives/ anything that can be considered a deadly weapon on school property so be very careful, okay?

True. My school is VERY lax when it comes to self defense. Half the student body carry firearms in their cars and a lot of girls carry pepperspray, pocket knives, etc.

Like others in the thread said, you can report him to the police for threats of bodily harm AND he is very much stalking you if he follows you around in public.

Oh, my school would've crucified me had I ever carried a weapon. Like at my school you'd probably get expelled.
We live in one of those districts where uniforms are mandatory, and backpacks have to be clear so you can see what's inside, and you're always subject to drug searches and checks without warning.