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Aren't they though?
Like, sexual atraction? Romance at first sight? W e i r d

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Thinking about trying the name Rual? Means wolf counsel and I love it

@The-N-U-T-Cracker

i understand seeing someone as cute or wanting to cuddle with them, but to look at someone and think

while still trying to tell everyone you're perfectly normal and we're the weird ones for liking people for their personalities and friendship alone…???
i don't get it
i don't want to get it
allos are a whole new breed of weird and i want no association with them

@Max_Miracle_DroppedMostOfTheirRPs

As an allo I can confirm we are a terrifying group but we’re not all like that I promise :’)
I’m very rarely sexually attracted to someone at first sight, at most it’s usually “omg pretty human you can step on me…please step on me”
So yes I’m realizing this doesn’t further prove my point at all, we’re weird and scary XD

@berlioz

Guys, I know we joke and we joke, but just a friendly PSA for everyone-
There's nothing wrong with being allo
There's nothing wrong with liking the idea of sex and experiencing sexual attraction.
There's nothing wrong with not liking the idea of sex and not experiencing sexual attraction.
There's nothing wrong with being somewhere in between.
Just because someone experiences a certain type of attraction does not mean they're heartless people for wanting to get to know people based on that attraction.
It also doesn't mean they only make and value relationships based on how strong that attraction is.
Allos are people too. And I say if you don't experience something, it's not your place to speak on it. As people in the LGBTQ community, you guys should know this best. Just because you don't experience certain types of attraction doesn't mean they're not real or relevant in other people's lives.
Again, I know we're all mostly joking here, just keep that in mind.

@RainClouds_Itachi_

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okok so very unrelated but my girlfriend told me to watch a show and i watched it and now i keep bothering her with "aND THAT CHARACTER IS OUR SON TOO NOW" bc all the characters are bbies how can i not love and adopt them??? i- and she just deal with my impulsive adopting nature so calmly like "yep, he's a very good boy, he can be our son :)" i love her so much????????

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What show?

Haikyuu
they all bbies and I-

dhsjdui, I'm literally reading the manga right now.

@berlioz

Goodmorning everyone :)
I'll try to keep this short, since I know some of you aren't Christian and I don't wanna clog the chat too much.

This Sunday morning, some of you are going to church, as per the Christian tradition. As Christians, we delight in worship, reading God's word, and fellowship with other believers. As we grow with God, it's becoming increasingly difficult to reconcile our identities with the confusing message coming from many pulpits today- "being LGBTQ is a sin."

Many queer, trans, and gender non-conforming Christians are having difficulty understanding God's heart on this matter. Christians who are out are encouraged to enroll in ex-gay ministries or other conversion therapies (yes, they're still around), lose their positions of service in their church, lose friends and family, and at worst are excluded altogether. Closeted Christians face a constant internal conflict- it's either keep your relationship with God and your church family or be yourself. The teaching of "being LGBTQ is a sin" has caused damage and heartbreak in the lives of many, leading people to fall away from God instead of grow closer, which is why I don't believe this can logically be God's will. Jesus is redemptive- God's story is about radical inclusion and transformation, not exclusion and suppression.
Here are a few recourses for LGBTQ Christians looking to reconcile their faith with their identities.

The Reformation Project's mission is to advance LGBTQ inclusion in the church. If you scroll down to "Breif Biblical Case", you'll see some compelling arguments and observations using the Bible to show support of same-sex marriage. They mostly address same-sex relationships, but they're also in full support of trans and gender non-conforming identities.
Here's their YouTube channel if you're into lectures:
The Reformation Project's YouTube channel
The founder, Matthew Vines (a gay pastor) also has a YouTube channel: Matthew Vines

If you're looking for transgender recourses, I found a lovely YouTube channel owned by Austen Hartke, a trans man with a Master's degree in Biblical studies (iirc). He has a playlist of short videos about being transgender and Christian:
Transgender and Christian

These come from secular websites, but still make good points:
The Human Rights Campaign
The Trevor Project

I'm still being introduced to these beliefs, and reconciling my own internal LGBTQphobia, but I feel like these beliefs better reflect the heart of God (and are more logical) than what so many of us have been taught. I feel closer to God now than I did when I believed our identities were inherently wrong. You aren't alone as a queer person of faith. Feel free to ask me questions. Love you guys <3

-your sibling in Christ :)

@The-N-U-T-Cracker

my parents have been saying that a lot about us recently
it kind of hurts if I’m being honest
but I like to try and use it as motivation, to remind me why I will never be like them

@Becfromthedead group

I'm sorry, but if you say things like that to your kids, you're a bad parent. If you really felt like a failure at parenting, like you've wronged your child in some way, you'd probably make an effort to fix it, and you wouldn't tell your child about that. "Where did I go wrong?" is a thinly veiled "I don't like certain things about you, but I was a good parent so I don't get why you're like this."
It's super messed up. Don't believe a word they say. Just stick to being you.

@Katastrophic group

I'm sorry, but if you say things like that to your kids, you're a bad parent. If you really felt like a failure at parenting, like you've wronged your child in some way, you'd probably make an effort to fix it, and you wouldn't tell your child about that. "Where did I go wrong?" is a thinly veiled "I don't like certain things about you, but I was a good parent so I don't get why you're like this."
It's super messed up. Don't believe a word they say. Just stick to being you.

this is actually gaslighting, a very common trend in emotional abuse. Turning the blame onto someone who never did anything wrong in the first place. Anyways if any of y'alls parents are this bad, I guess I'm adopting you or at least being your crazy aunt with 10 cats cause I don't have that much responsibility

@Becfromthedead group

Yeah, no. Gaslighting is a real thing, a subtle thing, and it's the worst. My mom does it to me, but very subtly, so y'know, I thought I was just crazy or hitting my "rebellious phase" or something.

@Katastrophic group

Yeah, no. Gaslighting is a real thing, a subtle thing, and it's the worst. My mom does it to me, but very subtly, so y'know, I thought I was just crazy or hitting my "rebellious phase" or something.

the worst part is it can be difficult to see until its already done some damage. Especially if the person doing it is very subtle. Luckily my flatmate was not to subtle and we managed to get rid of them really fast, but esp when its family doing it that's usually not the case

@Becfromthedead group

Yeah, for sure. Luckily I'm halfway out of the house, so that's cool. I also have a good temporary way out and a good support system elsewhere, so I know I'm one of the luckier ones. It really helps to have people validate your struggles.

@Max_Miracle_DroppedMostOfTheirRPs

The people who tried to “turn me straight again” were so fucking subtle about it
Like the whole time I wasn’t even sure if that’s actually what they were doing. Pretty sure the fact that I was in shock also contributed though.