forum ~VERY IMPORTANT~ I need help. NOW. Like, we're talking a life and friendship is on the line. (My best friend is suicidal, HELP!)

Started November 23, 2018 by @CW-BornConfuzzledLeftILoveYa

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what? what are you dealing with, Shuri?

I'm here.

What happened, Shuri?

i need practice, and to know what's wrong.

Hey, you’re doing great Shuri
I hope that whatever is going on gets a lot better very soon

It's not something I can discuss…

But I love you guys…

Yeah

We love you too, feel better soon ❤️

Hey, you’re doing great Shuri
I hope that whatever is going on gets a lot better very soon

I know… Trust me I know…

We love you too, feel better soon ❤️

I'm good, thank you!

okay

we love you too, Shuri :)

And in the words of the great Shuri himself, "I'm here to talk if you ever want to. PM me if you need anything."

I'm not gonna push you, though. :)

Relax, doll, if I need anything I'll deal with it…

My friend actually has another suicidal friend that she told me about (he's atheist). I don't know if that was a factor…?

Yeah

You're all in my prayers :)

My friend actually has another suicidal friend that she told me about (he's atheist). I don't know if that was a factor…?

It might very well be one…

yeah

she told me that the reason for her suicidal ness is because she thinks about her regrets.
but i dont think thats the only reason

That's usually what it's about…

It probably isn't

There could be a shite ton of stress piling up, plus regrets, plus possible issues with school/family/both. Maybe she’s not sleeping well or eating in addition to it all. Usually, there’s more than one factor and it runs deep. Maybe the other suicidal friend is a factor because she’s worried af and feels guilty that she can’t help enough?

That's also very true!

That's true

Yup, I can confirm the smiles thing

She’s been a perky person for almost forever (at least the time that I’ve known hers). But you know what they say. The biggest smiles often hide the most pain.

That's true…

Also, I'm planning to offer it up as a prayer request to my youth group, but I don't know…

a. How they would respond to a suicidal friend
b. How I would phrase it?

I'm not going to use her name, I'll just say, "A friend."

Is, "My friend has been talking about suicide recently, and I'm worried about her." an appropriate way to say it? As far as I know, only 2 other people in the youth group know her, and I invited her to a small youth event once. As I said, I wouldn't say her name, and if anyone asks, I'll tell them that I can't say. Is the above an appropriate way to address it in a youth group of 11+ year olds?

Also it's very easy to hide things online
Much easier to avoid a certain topic than if you are talking face to face

Also, I'm planning to offer it up as a prayer request to my youth group, but I don't know…

a. How they would respond to a suicidal friend
b. How I would phrase it?

I'm not going to use her name, I'll just say, "A friend."

Is, "My friend has been talking about suicide recently, and I'm worried about her." an appropriate way to say it? As far as I know, only 2 other people in the youth group know her, and I invited her to a small youth event once. As I said, I wouldn't say her name, and if anyone asks, I'll tell them that I can't say. Is the above an appropriate way to address it in a youth group of 11+ year olds?

11 years old is a little young… maybe you could bring it up to the leader of the group or the older people?

Well, only one of them is 11. They're pretty mature (as in they can handle things well). Someone once brought up the genocides in Africa, and they handled it just fine.

I think it should be fine then

All of them can handle serious topics, I think.

Is the example that I gave an OK way to address it?