forum The LGBTQ+ Community Chat :) Part 2!

Started September 25, 2020 by @Moxie group

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I'm so sick and tired of my family assuming I have a crush when I talk about a celebrity or character I think is cool, or one of my guy friends. Like, no, I'm actually not in love with goddamn Obi-Wan Kenobi! I may talk about him a lot, but it doesn't mean I want to kiss him!
On a similar note, can they stop with the 'when you get married' or the 'you'll fall in love one day'. Thanks for the assumptions, guys. I guess you're the experts on my future life now. It's not like I know myself and my feelings better than you or anything.

Sorry for the rant! I'm just pretty tired of it at the moment.

Nah it's fine. Toatally get it. For real tho my sister just recently told my mom she got a gf and then she looked at me and said "you got a girlfriend yet Norah?" And I didn't say anything a was like really embarrassed and I didn't want to tell her who so I let my mom guess and she got it right first try. That is how my mom found out I got a gf. My dad found out when i brought Valentine's choco for her.

today my 10 year old school kids had a deep discussion about crushes. One boy said he had 3 crushes, "me, myself, and I." to which another said "I have 5! Me, myself, and I! and also Minecraft and chocolate."

This kid knows his priorities.

On a similar note, can they stop with the 'when you get married' or the 'you'll fall in love one day'. Thanks for the assumptions, guys. I guess you're the experts on my future life now. It's not like I know myself and my feelings better than you or anything.

Sorry for the rant! I'm just pretty tired of it at the moment.

Sometimes I get irritated when my Mom talks about my "future spouse," then I realize I would never survive an entire lifetime without a personal human buddy, so fair point Mom but still. The worst is when anyone says like "you'll understand when you're older…" about getting married/having kids, like, guess my opinions right now aren't real because I'm a teenager rolls eyes

Kay new topic cause I want to talk about this. On Valentine's Day me and my partner are going to walk home from school to my house and I made her a card and bought her chocolates. I am really exited especially since we don't see each other much since we aren't in any of the same classes and we don't see each other much outside of school especially cause of the cold weather. AND THEN WHEN SHE PUTS HER HAIR UP I LITERALLY GET A GAY PANIC AHHHH. and everytime I do see her in the halls and stuff and I wave to her or hug her my day gets a thousand times better :) just wanted to rant about my gf.

I wish I could see my gf, but hey, I can in August. 180 or so days, if I'm right. (Yes, we're counting) I'm so glad I have her. I mean, she's putting up with the disaster of a human being I can be, to put it simply, and I'm glad.

Why is that the polar opposite of my grandparents calling me partner my "friend"?
We're literally engaged I-
(And we're also straight passing, so it's not like I'm with a woman and it's the same energy as "you two are such good friends!")

Oof

I am… _{more than a little late to the party…}

Why is that the polar opposite of my grandparents calling me partner my "friend"?
We're literally engaged I-
(And we're also straight passing, so it's not like I'm with a woman and it's the same energy as "you two are such good friends!")

people only have two settings, and they are: assume everything is romantic, or deny the existence of romance altogether

_{Thank you! I've seen you around, you seem like a cool person.}

_{Anygays… anyone else feel an attraction to literally everyone they meet?}

Why is that the polar opposite of my grandparents calling me partner my "friend"?
We're literally engaged I-
(And we're also straight passing, so it's not like I'm with a woman and it's the same energy as "you two are such good friends!")

people only have two settings, and they are: assume everything is romantic, or deny the existence of romance altogether

And this is very true. I hate it.

Ayyy welcome

Also, I get you. My parents keep getting mad when I don’t look enough “like a girl.” And if I’m not constantly asking out guys then I’m doing something wrong. I’m just really excited to move out, I guess

I would be too, if that's how my parents were! I'm sure they mean well, but also, "It's nunya business what I look like or who I'm dating."

My parents are chill with it I knew they would be because my sister came out before me and my mom's brother is gay married and adopted my cousin so i knew they would be fine with it.

Lol, those sentences are the ones that sound weird to anyone but those of us in the LGBTQ+ community.

Why is that the polar opposite of my grandparents calling me partner my "friend"?
We're literally engaged I-
(And we're also straight passing, so it's not like I'm with a woman and it's the same energy as "you two are such good friends!")

people only have two settings, and they are: assume everything is romantic, or deny the existence of romance altogether

And this is very true. I hate it.

Either that or they want to set me up with a rich doctor man 🤢 (I can't make this shit up, they actually tried to do that)

Why is that the polar opposite of my grandparents calling me partner my "friend"?
We're literally engaged I-
(And we're also straight passing, so it's not like I'm with a woman and it's the same energy as "you two are such good friends!")

people only have two settings, and they are: assume everything is romantic, or deny the existence of romance altogether

And this is very true. I hate it.

Either that or they want to set me up with a rich doctor man 🤢 (I can't make this shit up, they actually tried to do that)

I hate that so much. Legit.

Bruh you're grandparents are whack fr

I have two walrus plushes, so i'm sending one to my gf for valentines day

Why is that the polar opposite of my grandparents calling me partner my "friend"?
We're literally engaged I-
(And we're also straight passing, so it's not like I'm with a woman and it's the same energy as "you two are such good friends!")

people only have two settings, and they are: assume everything is romantic, or deny the existence of romance altogether

And this is very true. I hate it.

Either that or they want to set me up with a rich doctor man 🤢 (I can't make this shit up, they actually tried to do that)

I hate that so much. Legit.

The only thing stopping my grandpa from buying a tractor that he doesn't need cause he lives in an apartment is my grandma.

Last Saturday I came out for the first time to two of my friends! We were talking about something and they asked me if I had a Valentine, so I pretty much told them that I'm a lesbian with a hopeless crush on someone I'll never see again. They were totally cool about it, and I gotta say I was soaring after that. It feels like, around them at least, I'm now more myself.

Good! You always feel better after coming out to people that you know cares.

This chat has been dead for a while, huh? Anyways, with the help of my girlfriend and my cousin, I have reached the conclusion that I'm non-binary, and I have felt happier since testing that label out. :) (She/they/he pronouns, if you guys are wondering. :) )

not me having a fear of coming out.

That's understandable. I don't think I'm ever telling my family this. Only my online friends, my closest irl friend, my cousin, being the one family member that I trust, and my significant other get to know. It's truly understandable. hug

I'm 22 and not out to my family. It's fine. I know how it feels to wish you could tell them, but you also don't owe it to them if they aren't going to be respectful or kind.

I've only told one of my cousins too and I told her because she forgets and I know she does but thats okay because if she continues to forget she has no chance to out me to the rest of our family.

I'll probably come out to my parents once I'm an adult or move out. I think they'd be able to come to terms with it, my family is really nice, but I don't want to be under my parent's power once they know, cause psychologically that wouldn't be great I think. My extended family would probably freak out tho, it might actually be kinda funny to like bring future girlfriend to a reunion and see what everyone does lol