forum Your Personal Venting Space 3: Tokyo Drift

Started June 28, 2020 by @The-N-U-T-Cracker

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as you should honestly.

Remember that lady that tried to sue every gay in her state or something

Nobody:
My sister: Gets mad that everyone went inside, throws and breaks her Switch, and proceeds to yell at our mother for it

And she didn’t get her ass whooped? Is she the youngest?

Yep she’s the youngest

Injustice rages rampant

Yeah, no, younger siblings never get in trouble for anything.
Not that I would wish spankings on anyone, but at least ground my sibling :(((
I was the better behaved child, but sometimes I would get in trouble for shit he did too.
Like come on guys. You can do better than that.

It was surprisingly recent that I stopped getting in trouble for everything

My brother’s usually the one who provokes me, but since he’s the quiet one and I yell a lot, I was always the one who got in trouble when my parents didn’t see it and just heard it

He got away with a lot of stuff, including stabbing me with a Caprisun straw at a family gathering

I'm not here to get controversial, political, or whatever, but I want to get this off my chest. Disclaimer: I fully support the defund the police movement, BLM, and whole heartedly believe cops should be held accountable to the law as strictly as citizens, if not more so.
That being said, I hate it when people say "I hate cops" or "All cops bad" or whatever have you. I've seen so many people making fun of the police, all police, and not giving any one of them a chance or respect.
When my mom was killed a few months ago, I had the chance to meet the policeman that worked on our case, and he literally cried over what happened. He threw everything into that case, to make sure my mother got justice. He came and talked to us on a professional level, as well as on an emotional, human level. He's retiring soon, because of an injury that is making field work hard for him to do, and unsafe. The topic of people hating police came up at one point, and all he said was "I just want to help people. Most people think we're all bad, but most times we just want to help people."
He looked so sad. And I know there are corrupt police forces out there. I know there are evil law enforcers who deserve the worst the law can give them. But I still feel like when we make blanket statements about any group, EVER, we are erasing the humans, and turning them into stereotypes. While it is so important we fix what is broken, it is also important we don't push away the people who are actually trying, who are good.
Anyway don't attack me.

Nah I get that. When I was sexually harassed I went to the police station and the female officers helped me more than my parents and made me feel safe and protected. The officer who worked my case gave me her personal number in case he found me again to ensure my safety. I genuinely believe there are really good cops who want to do good by people and we need to honor them, but the bad cops need to be punished appropriately in order to establish a boundary that cops aren't omniscient and given the power that theyre given for no reason.

Bruh you’re asking to be contradicted by making such a statement. I mean, I agree with you. But also blaming the people who say that is a bit off imo. I’ve certainly said it a couple times. It’s not exactly right. But that’s like getting pissy at women who say they hate men. I mean sure men deserve more than hate. I am one. But when you live in a world where some group of people might get away with murder and you know some do, it seems a bit unfeeling to lightly put away their words prompted by pain. It isn’t fun knowing a cop can kill the people you love and get away with it. I know it.
It is unfair to the cops to make such general statements. But then again, it’s pretty unfair living in fear as well.

Bruh you’re asking to be contradicted by making such a statement. I mean, I agree with you. But also blaming the people who say that is a bit off imo. I’ve certainly said it a couple times. It’s not exactly right. But that’s like getting pissy at women who say they hate men. I mean sure men deserve more than hate. I am one. But when you live in a world where some group of people might get away with murder and you know some do, it seems a bit unfeeling to lightly put away their words prompted by pain. It isn’t fun knowing a cop can kill the people you love and get away with it. I know it.
It is unfair to the cops to make such general statements. But then again, it’s pretty unfair living in fear as well.

Super valid, and let me clarify just a little bit. I'm talking specifically about instances of speech such as these ones I saw that just seemed petty and unfair:
"All cops have small p**"
"All my heroes kill cops"
"The only good cop is a dead cop"
Stuff like that. While other, less extreme blanket statements annoy me, I understand where they come from. It was these examples that prompted this post.

Also not really asking to be contradicted just wanted to get my feelings off my chest so I can move on with my day thanks.

Aight I gotchu mate. Good day to you bro.

Same to ya

I know this is minor compared to the other things on here, but I just need to vent about this. I found a lipstick that's a bit different from what I usually wear, kind of a greyish purple. I thought it looked nice (and it was on sale) so I bought it. The whole time, my mom loudly objected and told me that she'd never let me wear it out of the house. Was it even worth buying? I adore my mom and value her opinions, so now I'm second-guessing my decision to buy it at all.

Dude, you wear whatever lipstick makes you comfortable. I know I always surprise my mom when I wear weird colored lipsticks. They may seem strange in the tube then look great on.
Also, finally some good fucking news: we had an application for an apartment accepted. Going to see the place tomorrow, and I'm really excited to finally move in with my partner.

Oh that's great! I hope it goes well and thanks for the advice :)

Does anyone have more experience than me at working through a depressive episode? Cause I have a teaching internship in a couple days and I can't be this apathetic and I don't know what to do

Reasons I appreciate my dad: when my mom was complaining about my makeup choices being too bold, he said, "let her wear what she wants, it's not hurting anyone."
Reasons my dad is questionable: when a man with long hair and some tattoos walked into the restaurant we were at, the first thing he did was turn to me and say "i don't care how great his personality is, if you ever date someone who looks like that, you're over."
I have such mixed feelings on my father and it's honestly a crapshoot whether or not I like him on any given day. He can be really funny and supportive, but he also has anger issues and is overly sensitive about little things.

Does anyone have more experience than me at working through a depressive episode? Cause I have a teaching internship in a couple days and I can't be this apathetic and I don't know what to do

Oof what do you have to do?

Does anyone have more experience than me at working through a depressive episode? Cause I have a teaching internship in a couple days and I can't be this apathetic and I don't know what to do

So, first, it’s obvious that when someone is in a depressive episode, they’re pessimistic, apathetic and just really really tired so they don’t do anything.
The best thing (in my opinion) is having someone be there for you, even if the depressed person is refusing to do anything.
When you’re in a depressive episode there’s not much you can really do except wait for it to pass. Some might want to distract said person or help them get out more often, and yeah, sometimes that does help but more often than not, you just can’t really do anything except be by their side and offering to help if they need anything.
For me, distraction was the key to just get by another day, but what might work for me, won’t necessarily work for others.

I’ve gone to therapy and one of the things that they try to teach us is coping skills. (I never picked up on that because well, I’m not gonna lie, I thought it was a little dumb (I was very nihilistic at the time)
Anything can be a coping skill if it helps you be in the moment and take you away from your thoughts for a while.
One thing though is that coping skills aren’t always effective, because no matter what you do, at the end of the day depression is a tough thing to fight against and it sucks the energy out of you. You might not want to practice coping skills because your brain tells you that it’s not worth it and it doesn’t matter at the end of the day. (But they do help, if only a little)

So, like I said, having a support system goes a long way. It’s the best thing that could help someone in the situation. Having someone that cares might motivate the person and little by little they might gain the energy to get up and start doing things.
Being understanding and patient with a depressed person can be hard, but I feel like if anything, this is more likely to help someone with a bad mental state.

I’m not sure if this helped- I didn’t have any of these things when I was going through the worst of it so i had to constantly fight against myself to not do something stupid (even though I did several of times).
I don’t know what it’s like to have someone be there for you no matter what the circumstances may be, but if I had to choose something that I know that would have helped me when I was at my lowest, I would choose having someone be there for me and reassuring me that this is going to pass and that the depression doesn’t define who i am and it doesn’t mean that I am a “lazy person” or a waste of space.

Does anyone have more experience than me at working through a depressive episode? Cause I have a teaching internship in a couple days and I can't be this apathetic and I don't know what to do

Oof what do you have to do?

It's literally the most high energy shit it's a musical theatre class we have a week to teach a bunch of 6-12 year olds three songs and choreographies

@Adaras yeah you've got some good points, I think I'm just gonna have go power through. My girlfriend has done something like this before so I'll talk to her tomorrow and see if she has any tips that could help with the teaching aspect

Sounds good, I hope it goes well !

I have no where else to vent cus she's everywhere else but–

My best friend is so bratty, and I know people have their negatives but she literally complains about everything I do and whenever something makes her even the slightest bit uncomfortable she'll complain about it. She's never thankful for things, always finds reasons to be ungreatful/complain, CONSTANTLY talks back to her mom (which really bothers me LMAO) and the shit she complains about to me is so trivial and petty that it does nothing but pisses me off. Even things I do just in the spur of the moment like say something weird or (like yesterday) put my shirt over my mouth and nose, she calls me weird and questions why I do it. It makes me feel like I'm constantly being questioned which does nothing but make me feel anxious that I'm pissing her off. yay. I think it's bothering me so much becuase it reminds me exactly of how my dad acts. Why can't people just be more fucking greatful? It pisses me off to no end and being probably the stark contrast to her doesn't help at all. Because of that it doesn't feel like she listens to me and I'm beyond frustrated with what feels like being emotionally cockblocked.

Also a less important thing but she uses "she/her" for everyone in irl world but uses "they/them" online when I told her she can use them anywhere. and still calls me fem compliments online and off despite me expressing that it doesn't feel personal when someone does. bother.

My guy that don't sound like a best friend

Yeah that’s not pog

Iirc, you're about to finish high school, right? If you do decide that your friend isn't someone you want to hang around because she makes you feel bad, you can easily ditch her once you graduate.
It does sound like a kind of icky situation. She's complaining about things you do in particular. Friends don't criticize friends. Not like that. Your feelings on that and everything else are 100% valid, and I've been in a similar situation before. It socks, but you're kind of at a point where it will probably be easy enough to drift apart soon.

warning for medical anxiety ig

We just had a malicitor front, then a whole new group of alters from a new split, most of which are trauma holders. I don't know how it got to that but it did and now everything hurts from the split headache.