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@Anemone eco

First off, it's okay to cry. It usually happens when feeling a really strong emotion.
And I'm sorry that you have to deal with him, but so long as you keep in mind that there's nothing wrong with your safe space or how you choose to play, it'll be alright. Just keep doin' it your way. My advice to you is to stop trying to explain it to him, since it seems to only result in frustration. If you don't give him attention or the reaction he wants, like most people, he'll probably stop doing it since he isn't getting what he wants anymore. It's alright to be upset for being made fun of, it's natural really, but don't let your feelings control you and try your best to keep your calm. He can't take away your safe space with his words. They're only opinions and your safe space is perfectly valid.

Don't know if this'll help, but I hope it does.

@Fraust

I really don't think he's doing it for attention, though
He does this thing where he's overly critical but he thinks he's helping
Like, he insults almost all the food my mother has made in some way
But he thinks it's constructive criticism I think?? Even though he's actually just being critical and rude?? And sometimes he thinks he's joking too but he says it so dryly it doesn't sound like a joke
I can't exactly just stop playing games around him since quarantine and stuff but like
I'm so tired of it
I just want to be able to feel safe and enjoy casually playing a casual game without him constantly making me feel bad about it

@RedTheLoveless

Ah. He's a nitpicker.
Honestly, if you can (not at this moment but at some point), just like tell him to chill his nips. I used to be a nitpicker, and the one thing that shut me up quicker than an elephant being given a peanut was when someone pointed out I was being nitpicky. If your brother is somewhat the same, it should have a similar effect.

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Asshole siblings are rough. I would say to tell him that he's being a dick and stand up to him, but it sounds like he may take that in the complete opposite way that he should.

I would shun him and make sure that he knows that nothing he can say or do can hurt you. Dont give him that power over you

@Fraust

But even though I know he's an asshole, his opinion still means a lot to me for some reason and it really does hurt when he insults my art or anything else I care about
I can try to tell him to stop being a bitch the next time he does it, but honestly, he'll probably think I'm joking or he won't care

@Fraust

It feels really hot in here
And kinda feels like I've been shoved into a tiny box
And I can't see super clearly
And my head is all buzzy and foggy
Is this reason for concern?

@Fraust

I can't take a shower or go outside, it's 2 am and I live with my parents
My cat is cuddling with me tho so I'm improving somewhat

@croccin-champagne

that's good! I hope everything gets better, my bf was just dealing with something similar and it really sucks to watch, I can only imagine how much it sucks to go through

best wishes man

@Althalosian-is-the-father book

There should be different levels of italics. Like this is too harsh for some things. Sometimes I want like, half of that slant, just the right amount to get my point across.

Agreed

Very much agree. And even more so. So as to stress while using italics. Bold just ruins the flow.

@Althalosian-is-the-father book

But even though I know he's an asshole, his opinion still means a lot to me for some reason and it really does hurt when he insults my art or anything else I care about
I can try to tell him to stop being a bitch the next time he does it, but honestly, he'll probably think I'm joking or he won't care

Tell him straight up that he's being hurtful. If you get that point across he might take a chill pill and rethink some stuff. I sometimes act like him, but if someone told me I was being hurtful I'd probably step back.

@Fraust

I can try, but again, I'm not sure it'll help. Knowing me, I'll get snappy and he'll tell me to chill

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has Oakenshield for a name.

Tolkien fan? :)

Yup. Not a serious fan. But enough that I know about the Maiar and Valar and read some of the tale of Beren and Luthien.

That's a lot more than most people. :) I'm just now making my way through the Silmarillion.

Deleted user

Unfortunately, no. I haven't gotten my hands on a copy yet, but I practically inhaled (or the reading equivalent) Perilous Realm.

Deleted user

Tolkien gets slept on too much these days. RIP