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@Periwinkle_

July 06, 2019

I think it’s okay to a degree, but only if it’s not too much or too hard. The purpose of it should be to punish you child, not to hurt your child.

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July 06, 2019

I fully disagree. I wouldn't do anything like that to my child, I don't want to cause them physical harm no matter what. I'm not gonna be like my parents and I'm not going to make the same mistakes they did with me.

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July 06, 2019

I was punished like that pretty often, and I don't think I turned out my best because of it. I disagree with it also, only because of the negative effects it can have on the child and parents' relationship.

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July 06, 2019

Sorry to butt in, but I was curious and want to add something to this if no one minds.
Spanking in children has a psychological impact on children since it is a violent punishment to stop violent or disruptive outbursts, and this enforces the cognition to change, causing the child to feel as if it is alright for them to act out more violently because mommy and daddy did it to them.
It all comes down to punishments and reinforcements in psychology.
Reinforcement is adding something desirable or taking away something undesirable in a positive way, punishment is taking or adding something in a negative way.
If you merge those two, you get a rather f*ed up situation.
You're speeding, but instead of the officer pulling you over, he rams his car into you, causing you to get injured. Suppose this was normal ~~almost is tho~~. The cop is an enforcer of the law, and you look up to him. But since he led the example, does that mean you can ram your car into another going 45 in a 40 mph zone? No.
It's the same with a child, but a child doesn't have a completely developed cognition enough to understand this. Monkey see; monkey do, after all.
Now, if you chose to spank your child in a mature manner, explaining the situation they created, then that's fine, just be aware of the threat this can pose. It's my belief that it poses far too much harm than good.
And that was your TED talk by the person who is the incarnation r/iamverysmart.

@Periwinkle_

July 06, 2019

I think it depends on how the parents do it. My parents spanked me all the time when I was little, but that was because I just didn’t know when to quit. I was passive aggressive and rude and stuff as a little kid. Now though, I don’t talk much at all, and I like to think that I’m less aggressive than I used to be. I also still have a pretty good relationship with my mom (not my dad though bc of other stuff). So I don’t think it hurt me more than it helped me. But that’s just my personal experience, I realize that not everyone is the same.

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July 06, 2019

I think it depends on how the parents do it. My parents spanked me all the time when I was little, but that was because I just didn’t know when to quit. I was passive aggressive and rude and stuff as a little kid. Now though, I don’t talk much at all, and I like to think that I’m less aggressive than I used to be. I also still have a pretty good relationship with my mom (not my dad though bc of other stuff). So I don’t think it hurt me more than it helped me. But that’s just my personal experience, I realize that not everyone is the same.

That's an example of a good reason to spank, but it does have impacts when done wrong.

@Althalosian-is-the-father

July 06, 2019

I grew up with spanking and I think it did me some good. I think sometimes a kid is old enough to be made to understand right and wrong but still too young to understand any kind of sophisticated discipline. (Notice I said discipline, not punishment.) I think that is where spanking works the best. Also I want to develop a system so that each discipline correlates to the crime, so as the kid grew older and wiser, the only physical discipline would be for physical violence. The rest would (hopefully) correlate directly to each infraction. But I think spanking as a general punishment for every misbehavior is slightly flawed.

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