Cool!
I don't write sex scenes in my stories (because they're YA) but if I ever do, I'll look into it!

What if you don't know any doms or subs you can talk to?

Oof…. That's a wonderful question.
I just happened to know people (awkward smile)

But I would defer to research on the interwebs. Just be careful and stick to webpages. No videos or what not.

From what I've heard, a lot of times people who practice BDSM don't give the details to people under 18 (which is part of why the whole "I was a sub at 15" thing in 50SOEA was bullshit).

^^^^^ Very true. It's actually one of the safest communities. weird irony

Whoops I'm only almost 17 lmao

Well, I think research helps. And actually, I find the emotional and psychological bits more interesting than the sex areas and also have like 18 billion more questions for it lol.

That's what the thread is all about

Um, I have a question as to how to write a scene from a virgin's point of view. Like, it's her first time. I honestly have no ideas.

Well what's they're background like? Shy? Religious? Extroverted?
All that should be taken into account. You do not want a complete personality shift.

Pretty sure for most virgins, sex is uncomfortable for the first time (for girls or bottom gay guys)

Well, she's pretty extroverted. Plus, the only things she knows about sex is what she learned from health class and her friends' urban legends.

Okay so the whole 'virgin sex is super bloody and painful' thing is kind of exagerrated, as long as her partner is gently and doesn't tear her hymen it shouldn't be a bloodbath.
Jenna Moreci covers it in a video of hers.

The first time hurts no matter what, but it's easily ignored and you really don't bleed a lot until a few hours after. It's like a brief period and done.

But if both people are virgins make sure it's sweet and awkward. No one is amazing their first time, so it's okay to make it a little more silly and focused on the emotions of the characters instead of the action itself.

Okay, thanks!

Oh hey that reminds me, is there anything I need to know about writing a scene where two people are very in love but one is an anxious virgin and the other has lots of experience?

Just remember to keep them both in character. Anxious virgin may talk a lot, shake, etc. The more experience person would (SHOULD) be gentle about it. Laugh with the virgin not at them, reassure them, but don't make any decisions for them.
a love scene should be all about trust, confidence, and love.

If not it seems reaaaalllly rapey.

Okay, that shouldn’t be too difficult bc the character with a lot of experience is naturally sweet and caring lol
And I low key didn’t know that scenes like this contained laughter?

lol common misconception. I can't tell you how many times i've laughed because something stupid happened. we bumped heads, someone made a weird noise, the cat jumped on someones butt (true story). It's just funny and happy and all those good feelings that bubble up in your throat and make you want to die of laugher.

Honestly I live for giggly smut in fics. Not everything has to be super intense and have tongue battles n shit lmaooo

word! it just makes your characters more human

I’ll keep that in mind lmao

I'm experimenting with the dreaded "hate sex" because two characters of mine get upsetted with each other and then things get a little intense. I want to write it in a way that makes you not think the two are entirely bad just a little confused and angry and GODDAMN HORMONES OKAY? Because both characters are innocent beans but can get a little intense. Also I don't want it to be rapey at all for the reason of because reasons so I'm going for "consensual hate sex" idk. I'm just weird and like to mess with character's heads. Derpity derp.

It'll be obvious in the situation that it is consensual. Just make sure to write the scene before the deed as intense and passionate as you can. You want that build up of emotion to let the reader know "oh shit this is about to happen."

Also add in a lot of physical touch in the scene beforehand. ie: female protag begins to storm away in a huff and male protag grabs her wrist and pulls her back (gently) so they can finish their argument or whatever. A grabs B's shoulders. etc. etc. It adds that extra flare of intensity and passion.

The deed itself shouldnt be rough per se, but with elements of diction that are more 'war like' than passionate. Hard and soft. You have to find that balance. ie: Their lips clashed together with bruising strength. Their bodies coming together like lightning, a hard strike that shattered the ground in pure light.

Afterward, have them be cold towards each other. one immediately leaves after dressing, promising it will never happen again.

Stuff like that.

(glances at Octane)

Hey now lmaoo

(glances at Octane)

Hey now lmaoo

Lmaooo I just saw "angry sex" and thought of our bois loll

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ERIS NO I CHOKED ON MY SODA