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Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

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I feel stupid, but what is Autism $peaks?

Eurgh…. well, I'm not a fan. They want to "cure" autism and have like, zero neurodiversity on their board. I mean, more severe cases of autism do need help, yeah, but for people like me with lesser cases, I don't see why it's a problem really.

Ugh, that’s terribly i’m Really sorry.

Yeah, that’s awful

Autism Speaks/ Autism $peaks is an organization that "supports" Autistic people.

• they have supported abusive parents by portraying autism as a terrible, life ruining affliction and openly sympathising with parents who have admitted to contemplating murdering their autistic children
• they call autism a disease
• only 1% of all donated money actually goes towards research. (hence $peaks) Most of the money they raise goes towards marketing and catering
• they took the word cure out of their mission statement only this past summer. because they recognise autism comes in many forms and that there is "not one autism so there can be no one cure". on the outside, this looks like denial of wanting a cure, but looking into the rest of what they say, it's essentially saying that they still want a cure for autism, as in now that they recognise that it's genetic, they want to prevent people with autism from being born
• they actively keep autistic people out of positions of leadership within their organization

I want to be clear, I agree wholeheartedly that it is important to help people with autism, and im all for helping support and potentially take are of kids with autism. Heck I kinda want that as my job. But the thing is, Autism Speaks cares more about making everyone around the autistic person happy than making the autistic person happy. They care more about supporting the family than the child. They want to make autistic people appear typical, which can have benefits but has been shown to be very harmful to the autistic person. There is a difference between help and support and, 'let's help you develop some skills that can help you function better and do well in the future' and 'let's change you and make you more normal by punishing you for expressing yourself in a way that comes naturally and force you to do things that are painful for you' and Autism Speaks engages in the latter while making it look like the former.

It does suck and it does make me mad, but at least now Im feeling very confident in my decision to change my major.

That sounds terrible! I’m sorry that y’all have to deal with a shitty organization like that!!!

Holy fuck, that's terrible! I'm so sorry you're in that situation…

i found some one else i found out my friend come out as bi a week ago so she was the first person i told i think i"m bi irl

COOL!

she told me 2 up date her on my sexualiry journy

oh hi shuri ya it"s great but also kind of wierd bcuz well idk i just wish i could know what the"f i am allready

It takes time sweetie, but you'll know eventually

i"m unpatient doe

Just don't think about it as much. If you keep focusing on that then you are less likely to find out. Give it time, it will come to you when it's ready

I came out to two people this weekend and like
Ugh why is it so hard
Why do I choke so much over the words "I'm bi" even when I'm saying them to people I trust
Why are they so hard to get out that my body physically will not let me say them
Why is coming out so hard?

Perhaps you are subconsciously, or even consciously, nervous of them reacting badly, and so your brain is reflexively making it harder for you to say the words

Yeahhhh probably
I also think I'm subconsciously nervous of rejection of being bi in general, not just from that one specific person, if that makes sense

Either way I'm sure you'll be fine!

AHHH I DID IT! I told my best friend that I’m genderfluid. She took it so well!!!!

Congrats!!

AHHH I DID IT! I told my best friend that I’m genderfluid. She took it so well!!!!

YAY!! I'M PROUD

Max I'm so proud of you! I knew it would go well! That's awesome.

AHHH I DID IT! I told my best friend that I’m genderfluid. She took it so well!!!!

YAY!! I'M PROUD

She’s the best! She automatically started asking me what pronouns I wanted to use and everything.

AHHH I DID IT! I told my best friend that I’m genderfluid. She took it so well!!!!

YAY!! I'M PROUD

She’s the best! She automatically started asking me what pronouns I wanted to use and everything.

Awwwwe, you have good friends!
Mine on the other hand…

AHHH I DID IT! I told my best friend that I’m genderfluid. She took it so well!!!!

YAY!! I'M PROUD

She’s the best! She automatically started asking me what pronouns I wanted to use and everything.

Awwwwe, you have good friends!
Mine on the other hand…

Yeah it’s tough…I was nervous to tell her about me and she’s trans. I doubt I’ll tell anyone else for awhile.

AHHH I DID IT! I told my best friend that I’m genderfluid. She took it so well!!!!

YAY!! I'M PROUD

She’s the best! She automatically started asking me what pronouns I wanted to use and everything.

Awwwwe, you have good friends!
Mine on the other hand…

Yeah it’s tough…I was nervous to tell her about me and she’s trans. I doubt I’ll tell anyone else for awhile.

I'm glad she understands

Y'all make me so proud ah
BTW: My little relationship shindig is going really well. Things are going slow, but progress is being made. At break yesterday we sat next to each other on one of the walls and watched Vines on his phone and our legs were right next to each other, which I know may not seems like much but I loved it. Like whenever I moved my leg he would move his to be closer to mine and aaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Y'all make me so proud ah
BTW: My little relationship shindig is going really well. Things are going slow, but progress is being made. At break yesterday we sat next to each other on one of the walls and watched Vines on his phone and our legs were right next to each other, which I know may not seems like much but I loved it. Like whenever I moved my leg he would move his to be closer to mine and aaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Sounds like a hell of a lot of fun! I'm proud of you as well!

sigh… What I am going to do with Valentine's Day coming up? Any advice?