forum The LGBTQ+ Community Chat :)

Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

tune

okay but didn’t bex say you didn’t need dysphoria to be trans? Love them otherwise but…

Yeah. There's a lot of discourse about it and the way I understand it, I agree with them. But since I'm cis, it doesn't really matter

I personally do have gender dysphoria

I also experience gender dysphoria. However, I have also experienced gender euphoria.
Dysphoria: I usually shower with the lights off or in dim candle light so I don't freak out and/or dissociate when I look down on my body how it is. Not looking in the mirror because I know the mess I'll see when I do.
Euphoria: That moment of stepping out of the shower after using Men's shampoo for the first time, and all around me I smell the calming scents of coconut and beachwood in the steam instead of manucatured variations of citric acid.

That's awesome, Lee! The euphoria part at least! (Not the dysphoria..)

Yeah… gender euphoria is pretty nice to experience when compared to the usual gender dysphoria.

I see. I like men's shsmpoo. But I always use a dab of women's too. Just a little bit.

I definitely like mens shampoo better, but mum doesn't buy any since my dad doesn't have hair and my brother just uses mine and mum's

Yeah. Men's shampoo for me is better.

I have no choice in the matter

I see. That really sucks.

It does.
I've tried to get them to let me use men's deodorant too. They "don't want me to smell like a guy"

Oof. I'm sorry about that, Youngblood.

It's ok, I guess.
But smelling like a guy is better than smelling like fucking lavender and kiwi. By far.

It's ok, I guess.
But smelling like a guy is better than smelling like fucking lavender and kiwi. By far.

Do you think you could get a friend to smuggle some to you…? If not, then all I can really offer is binding advice and a shoulder to lean on until you are in a better situation.

It's ok, I guess.
But smelling like a guy is better than smelling like fucking lavender and kiwi. By far.

Amen, brother

Indeed. I like the strong, gritty clean smell of men's deodorant for sure!

I can't.
And I'd be happy to accept the binding advice and a shoulder to lean on.

You've got us, YB! Always! I can't give you binding advice, but I can try my best to encourage you, and support you!

You've got us, YB! Always! I can't give you binding advice, but I can try my best to encourage you, and support you!

Thank you! Encouragement is always appreciated, considering the environment I have to work with.

That's all my family buys so I'm happy about that!

You've got us, YB! Always! I can't give you binding advice, but I can try my best to encourage you, and support you!

Thank you! Encouragement is always appreciated, considering the environment I have to work with.

I think I get it. Well not really, but partially.

That's all my family buys so I'm happy about that!

Lucky

Well, if you don't have a binder or athletic tape available, I suggest layering two, non-padded sports bras and then wearing a tight undershirt to even-out the remaining "curve", and then wear a normal shirt and you should be looking better than before.

Thanks for the tip!

Wow now that's really cool advice!

Well, if you don't have a binder or athletic tape available, I suggest layering two, non-padded sports bras and then wearing a tight undershirt to even-out the remaining "curve", and then wear a normal shirt and you should be looking better than before.

Unfortunately, I own one sports bra, and zero tight shirts.
I've just been tying a really thin scarf around my chest. It almost works

Just be careful, if you don't bind right then it could cause a LOT of trouble later on… I know that probably didn't work but PLEASE make sure you're not inadvertently hurting yourselves… ;-;

Oh my god, I found another sports bra and tight shirt.
I thought I had none

Yeah. Maybe find out how to do it from someone experienced! I trust Lee, so I'd recommend them for help with binding!