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Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

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bitch he deserves to get drop kicked directly into the void by god himself the fuck

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The little sack of pearly packed horse shit

Poorly packaged piece of horse shit

got damn trash child ball boy

bruh you know where endeavor's balls went? they got reincarnated as trash grape's hair

lol

guess which Aromantic Asexual just had the "do you want to date anyone? why dont you have a boyfriend?" convo with her dad the other day and has been internally panicking about him somehow magically finding out that she is Ace and Aro even though she didnt mention that to him and was trying to sound as straight as possible…… me, its me, im panicking

i still think he could tell I was fishing for answers so I could say anything except for "Im Asexual and Aromantic, Idk if I ever want to date anyone"…….. and then having to explain those terms probably multiple times because I can guarantee he wont understand during which he will probably say some a/arophobic things and and tell me that those identities dont exist and that its just my autism (which who cares if it is, the labels still define my experiences)

so im panicked about maybe having to have that conversation

Well fuck man, I'm sorry you had to deal with that. How are you holding up?

@Lee-The-Bleeding-Heart I appreciate the support man.
honestly idk if you were actually asking but im gonna answer like you were
im panicked and anxious and my dad walked in on me journalling and asked what I was writing about and it was just uuughhhh but yeah , for right now, im just trying to get all of the swirling thoughts out of my head onto paper (or word document) by journaling
i also may or may not be planning a speech that I am planning on memorising in case the conversation does somehow happen and I do somehow say something stupid and out myself or something so it feels less awkward and im less emotional

the worst part is that honestly i wasnt thinking I would ever need to come out to my dad, I thought it would be my mom asking me about boys, or even my sister, but not my dad…… he is the last person in my family I would want to come out to. My whole family is Christian and he is probably the most conservative out of everyone.
The thing that throws me off is that we've had these weird family meetings where my parents have sat me and my sister down and gone, "you know, we'll accept you even if you are gay or decide you think you're actually a boy or whatever, but it will take us some time to come to terms with that and understand." But the examples they gave were all things that they knew about, things that they think they understand. im 90% certain my dad doesnt even know about pansexuality, much less Asexuality or Aromanticism.

tl;dr im still anxious, im journaling. I dont wanna come out to dad as he is the conservative of the family, and the whole situation just sucks. hopefully tomorrow is a better day.

So I left at page 240 and came back at 262. Yes I'm still alive. Yes I'm still panicking (anywhere but the disco apparently). No, I'm not fine. How are y'all?

Aw, @thehobbit
I think my best advice for you (even though you didn't ask for it) is to have faith in your parents and just hope for the best, but stick to your opinions and stand your ground.

I dont mind the advice, I appreciate having you guys on here and knowing that you support me and let me rant about things when i have no one irl I can talk to about this sort of stuff

• Are there such things as mini panic attacks?
• What is happening if I suddenly feel on edge, my heart starts pounding and “hiccup-ing,” and it feels like I have to take the conscious effort to breath because it’s like there’s a baby sitting on them (light pressure, but still there)?
• Is that normal?
• What the heck is going on?
• What do I do?
• ???

I dont mind the advice, I appreciate having you guys on here and knowing that you support me and let me rant about things when i have no one irl I can talk to about this sort of stuff

Sorry about that thing with your dad. I thought I almost accidentally came out to my mom once but she didn’t think anything of it, so it was okay.

idk if that's a thing or not but I would still recommend taking deep breaths and trying to calm yourself as much as possible to relax.

relaxing is never a bad thing to do tbh

• Are there such things as mini panic attacks?
• What is happening if I suddenly feel on edge, my heart starts pounding and “hiccup-ing,” and it feels like I have to take the conscious effort to breath because it’s like there’s a baby sitting on them (light pressure, but still there)?
• Is that normal?
• What the heck is going on?
• What do I do?
• ???

Ok don't worry, here's what you do
set a metronome
breathe in for four seconds
hold it for five seconds
release for eight seconds
repeat as many times as you need
this will (should) automatically shut off your body's panic response

• Are there such things as mini panic attacks?
• What is happening if I suddenly feel on edge, my heart starts pounding and “hiccup-ing,” and it feels like I have to take the conscious effort to breath because it’s like there’s a baby sitting on them (light pressure, but still there)?
• Is that normal?
• What the heck is going on?
• What do I do?
• ???

Ok don't worry, here's what you do
set a metronome
breathe in for four seconds
hold it for five seconds
release for eight seconds
repeat as many times as you need
this will (should) automatically shut off your body's panic response

also listen to lofi or instrumental music with no words, heres a link if you need it

@Lee-The-Bleeding-Heart I appreciate the support man.
honestly idk if you were actually asking but im gonna answer like you were

Yeah buddy, I was asking. I'm glad you were able to rant and get that off your chest.

I see you, soft boi Kirisima.

I would have a Deku as my profile pic but I think I broke the site with what I did lmao. Long story short: I switched this account to my other email that wasn't gonna get terminated and I made a new Gravatar but it isn't linking here so yeah. I broke it.

(This is RedTheHopeless, by the way)

Update: I fixed it. I fucked up my email is what happened and I had to go back and clean that up.

Aww you chose such a cute pic of Midoriya. (I feel like I'm the only person who refers to him as Midoriya rather than Deku normally)

Midoriya, Izuku, Deku, all the same cinnamon roll lmao

Thank you! I have joined the soft boi squad

My mom walked into my room yesterday and was like "what are you watching?" and I said "……anime." and then she sighed a little and left the room.

I keep staying up really late on my iPad and my dad is starting to catch on

I've been staying up til like five am or pulling all nighters just to watch anime or stuff on YouTube and I think my mom has noticed

Hey y'know something that annoys me? When people shorten until to till instead of 'til because till only isn't getting striked as a misspelling because of the word till like a cash register.

I've been watching bnha nonstop for the past couple of days and my family hasn't said anything lmao

I've been watching bnha nonstop for the past couple of days and my family hasn't said anything lmao

Meeeeeee I’m basically obsessed with it. I watch it every day, I kind of worship it in a strange way…. but not insanely. It’s basically I can’t talk about anything besides it. I love it so much. God I love Katsuki so much, he’s so precious even though he’s an asshole sometimes.

I've been watching bnha nonstop for the past couple of days and my family hasn't said anything lmao

Meeeeeee I’m basically obsessed with it. I watch it every day, I kind of worship it in a strange way…. but not insanely. It’s basically I can’t talk about anything besides it. I love it so much. God I love Katsuki so much, he’s so precious even though he’s an asshole sometimes.

Yessssss oh my god since I've been sick and hadn't been in school when I first started watching My Hero Academia I was literally watching it non stop to distract myself and I finished it in like two or three days.

I've been watching bnha nonstop for the past couple of days and my family hasn't said anything lmao

Meeeeeee I’m basically obsessed with it. I watch it every day, I kind of worship it in a strange way…. but not insanely. It’s basically I can’t talk about anything besides it. I love it so much. God I love Katsuki so much, he’s so precious even though he’s an asshole sometimes.

Yessssss oh my god since I've been sick and hadn't been in school when I first started watching My Hero Academia I was literally watching it non stop to distract myself and I finished it in like two or three days.

I technically finished it in two days, but I keep rewatching it. It’s basically an escape from life, I love it sooooooooo much.