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Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

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I get it… I uh… My best friend ever just left today…

Awww I'm so sorry

It's OK…

This is kind of unrelated to anything we've been talking about, but… I have this friend. I don't know her very well, but she's an absolute ray of sunshine, and she's in one of my classes, and everybody loves her. Well, I just learned that her house burned down… and on top of that, her best friend was killed in a car accident about a month ago, and I know she has to be hurting a lot. I don't know what to do. I barely know her, but she does not deserve to go this alone. Anyone have advice for what to do?

Offer her your support and your ears to listen to her, even if you both don't know each other, just the simple act of reaching out will do some help. Ask if she needs anything at all. She'll probably say no, she's just fine, but at least your offer will be there. Acknowledge you don't know each other, just say:

"I don't know you very well, and you don't know me very well either but I know you're going through a really tough time right now. You've been such a kind and lovely person–a literal ray of sunshine at times. Just know that I'm here for you, to support you and offer you anything you need or want."

Or something of the like.

This is kind of unrelated to anything we've been talking about, but… I have this friend. I don't know her very well, but she's an absolute ray of sunshine, and she's in one of my classes, and everybody loves her. Well, I just learned that her house burned down… and on top of that, her best friend was killed in a car accident about a month ago, and I know she has to be hurting a lot. I don't know what to do. I barely know her, but she does not deserve to go this alone. Anyone have advice for what to do?

Be direct… Don't you fucking dawdle… This is a human in pain, who needs to be shown a good time… Please do so…

Yeah, you're both right… I should probably go ahead and private message her. I just hate how easily I see pain, but how I'm always too afraid to do anything about it. Obviously, I'm in need of a change in that respect.

Very well… Good advice, Red…

Okay, I sent it.

Good! You're awesome, Bec…

You are awesome, my dude. I'm sure she'll appreciate the kind gesture

I try, Shuri… I try.
She did get the message, and she said it meant a lot to her, so that's good… I mean, she might come to me at some point, but she also might not. She's got her sorority sisters and other friends, but I think sometimes even an offer for support can mean the world.

It truly can… I have seen it happen, Bec…

That's wonderful, Bec. I'm glad you reached out to her and she received you well…

This site is amazing. Had I not asked for advice, I may not have reached out… Not because I didn't want to, but because sometimes it's scary being the one to initiate conversations like that.

Yeah… We'll do anything to help… No person should have to suffer without help…

^^^ Indeed.

As long as you're helping people and picking up the slack for me, I'm happy…

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Guys I'm gonna do something nice for my crush!

Good luck, Jynnie!

We're reading Romeo and Juliet for class and we get to read parts and she really really really wants Mercutio for Act 3 so I'm going to go to class early to reserve him for her even though I really wanted Mercutio since I got sick and missed most of my scenes as him for Act 2

Awwwwww
Do you think she'll know it was you? Or are you doing it secretly?

I think she'll guess it was me.
I hope she figures out it was me.

Hey, uh I hate to bother y'all but I have a bit of a problem

And some good news I guess

Whichever one you want first

Bad news. Get it out of the way. Then the good so we can be happy again!

Whats up?

What's up?