forum The LGBTQ+ Community Chat :)

Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

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so much relation

At the end of the day though, really only you can say what you are. Don't worry about not being "gay enough." Just be you and love who you want to love, and even more importantly, love yourself.

……..ok

i like flannels and i’m not totally lesbo?

Lol same Emi. I have so many flannels.

ive heard it was a lezbiano thing sorry

i like flannels and i’m not totally lesbo?

I'm ace and either pan or poly romantic, and 80% of my fall/winter wardrobe is flannels. I'm wearing my ace flannel today

_{i have flannels everywhere}

I mean, that's the stereotype, yeah. Even my lesbian friends will crack jokes about flannel, including the whole event where they made my boyfriend an "honorary lesbian" (but let's not worry about that)

i have 12 flannels

I mean, that's the stereotype, yeah. Even my lesbian friends will crack jokes about flannel, including the whole event where they made my boyfriend an "honorary lesbian" (but let's not worry about that)

This

I have 5 I think? I want more.

_{i am so sorry}

I have no flannels…

Twelve

I am God

_{why am i even here….. i keep being so offensive}

I just have a PSA: CONNIE IS AWESOME AND DESERVES ALL THE LOVE!!

_{are sure about that}

Yup

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So umm, guys? sorry to interrupt the kindly yelled encouragement but I want your assistance, my anxiety ridden self can't figure out what to do.

I think I might go to my school's LGBTQ+ club, Haven, today, but i'm seriously second guessing if I should go or not because my Ace self is not out to anyone here and what if I see someone that I know there and they ask why I suddenly decide to show up and then I have to out myself and probably give a long discussion on definitions and I reallllly don't want to do that like… ugh. But it is Ace Awareness Week this week so they might be acknowledging that but I can't know because i've never been and just like I don't know what to do and agkshfgdfsdlfbiugdbkgbdb

should I go????????

yes!!
only if you're comftrable…our school doesn't have a LGTBQA+ club…should middle schools?

If you're comfortable with it, you should go. From my experience, everyone in LGBTQA+ clubs are super accepting and won't out you unless you want them to. Most of them probably know what ace means. They'll most likely also be willing to call the club something else (ex. Anti-Bullying club, School Spirit club) so you don't have to come out just to be in the club.

yes!!
only if you're comftrable…our school doesn't have a LGTBQA+ club…should middle schools?

My middle school has one, but there are only a few people and they mainly just come over to the high school to hang out with us.

I kinda wanna start one, but I'm not sure which teacher would support it…I feel like quite a few people would join though…many people in our school are very open.

Another thing is that (at least in my club) people are totally accepting if you just say you don't know your sexuality. If you don't want to come out yet, you could just say that or say that you don't want to share.

yeah…on national coming out day (october 11) chase, who is a transmasculine/gay, ran around the school in rainbow suspenders and belt, high top shoes, and a gay flag as a cape - I ran around behind her in my ace flag cape

yeah…on national coming out day (october 11) chase, who is a transmasculine/gay, ran around the school in rainbow suspenders and belt, high top shoes, and a gay flag as a cape - I ran around behind her in my ace flag cape

I aspire to do this one day (never will but like a girl can dream)

Hey… need some advice…I think…
I'm non-binary but only one of my siblings knows, and I know for a fact that my oldest sister and the one I looked up to the most growing up is very against basically everything LGBT. I mentioned non-binary people once to kind of feel her out, but she started talking about how she sees it as a mental disorder that should be treated not supported. I'm ONLY out to my one sibling because she's very accepting of everything, being bisexual herself, but I really don't know what to do. I know my parents are also very against all this since they're really religious. In fact, I have a paranoia that all my friends would shun me if they knew because I live where there's a huge congregation of one certain religion, and I was raised in it too. It's been driving me crazy lately, and I don't know what to do.
I'm going to get my hair cut soon, but my oldest sister saw the kind I wanted and said that I should choose something with less of a 'lesbian vibe' which was pretty rude, and also just stereotypical. I've always looked up to her so much and wanted to be like her, but… not anymore. Any advice? I'm really quite new to the whole community…

i suck at giving advice but like
You don't have to come out if you don't want to. It's not like its required. And if your friends did shun you for being non binary, then they're sucky friends. And if your sister is lgbt+ phobic, well, just try not to care too much of what she thinks. If you don't feel safe, do not come out. And who cares what your sister thinks of your "lesbian" hair cut.. it's your hair and it's just a way for you to be you