like the world's view of relationships is just so skewed and terrible and exclusive and I just hate it???
like I actually dig the Mormon style of dating where you don't steady date until you're seriously looking at marriage
like hey I'm bi and I'm ready to fly let me date lots of ppl before settling down with just one
and let me do it without your judgement please and thank you
Exactlyyyyyyy
and like
IDK
only 1% of the earth's population is ace
more likely than not I will end up in an allo/ace relationship, not an ace/ace relationship
like…. IDK what do I do….. like the culture around relationships is so messed up. Like literally all the songs and movies are about sex and like…. IDK I've become hyper aware of it since realizing I was ace and like…. It really bugs meUgh same
And like
I'm so afraid of sex
I don't want to be in a relationship dependent on sex but it's more than likely to happen
I GET IT
I'm like… sex-repulsed like I don't wanna have sex at all? Like…. no????????? It's not appealing to me whatsoever? Why would like… mashing your groins together be that great no it's just kinda gross and like…. ew no. (hence the sex-repulsed label) (@ all you allosexuals sorry…..)
I read this analogy in a book called Let's Talk about Love (10/10 would recommend, good ace rep book) where…..
okay
some ppl are into jogging. Some people aren't, and can't see why anyone would ever wanna jog.
Now replace jogging with sex.
That's what aces are- the ones not into it.
And like… IDK I just want ppl to get that
And like…. I wanna fall in love. I really do. I want all the in-love couple-y things that ppl do (minus the sexual physical intimacy) but like….. IDK if I even can and IDK if that scares me or if that disappoints me or if that's good bc then I'll never end up in a bad relationship bc I just won't have any at all lol
and like
IDK
only 1% of the earth's population is ace
more likely than not I will end up in an allo/ace relationship, not an ace/ace relationship
like…. IDK what do I do….. like the culture around relationships is so messed up. Like literally all the songs and movies are about sex and like…. IDK I've become hyper aware of it since realizing I was ace and like…. It really bugs meUgh same
And like
I'm so afraid of sex
I don't want to be in a relationship dependent on sex but it's more than likely to happenI GET IT
I'm like… sex-repulsed like I don't wanna have sex at all? Like…. no????????? It's not appealing to me whatsoever? Why would like… mashing your groins together be that great no it's just kinda gross and like…. ew no. (hence the sex-repulsed label) (@ all you allosexuals sorry…..)
I read this analogy in a book called Let's Talk about Love (10/10 would recommend, good ace rep book) where…..
okay
some ppl are into jogging. Some people aren't, and can't see why anyone would ever wanna jog.
Now replace jogging with sex.
That's what aces are- the ones not into it.
And like… IDK I just want ppl to get that
Exactly
Like
Pee comes out of that
Why would anyone want it inside them
Just ew
And like…. I wanna fall in love. I really do. I want all the in-love couple-y things that ppl do (minus the sexual physical intimacy) but like….. IDK if I even can and IDK if that scares me or if that disappoints me or if that's good bc then I'll never end up in a bad relationship bc I just won't have any at all lol
same
and like
is true love even real?
Bc while I love to believe soulmates are real
I don't think there's just one person out there who I could be happy with. Being bi I like to think there's at least two, a guy and a girl, bc if there's only one person who I can really be happy with, am I really bi? Does having a romantic soulmate of one gender invalidate one's attraction to a diff gender or multiple genders?
Like… IDK I feel like some things are just too good to be true sometimes…. and true love sometimes seems like one of those things. Bc for every couple that's perfect and lovey dovey there's prob another that's falling apart and like… why is true love so elusive?
Hello
That is a really good outlook on soulmates! :)
and like
is true love even real?
Bc while I love to believe soulmates are real
I don't think there's just one person out there who I could be happy with. Being bi I like to think there's at least two, a guy and a girl, bc if there's only one person who I can really be happy with, am I really bi? Does having a romantic soulmate of one gender invalidate one's attraction to a diff gender or multiple genders?
Like… IDK I feel like some things are just too good to be true sometimes…. and true love sometimes seems like one of those things. Bc for every couple that's perfect and lovey dovey there's prob another that's falling apart and like… why is true love so elusive?
Well, being happy with a single person does not invalidate the attraction to other genders
But soulmates are bullshit in my opinion
So
and like
IDK it's so dumb lol
bc the circumstances I was born into make my experience really unique, and to find you, Sol, who's experiencing a somewhat similar thing (bc you also have like, genderfluid, and we're at such diff ages and dealing with it in entirely diff cultures in terms of state/politics), is just amazing.
But like…. if I wasn't born Mormon, or even Christian, I'd be letting my bi/ace flag fly and you know maybe I'd've kissed a girl. But you know maybe not bc like…. haven't kissed any guys either. Or like…. even really wanted to besides… oh that person's face is nice I'd kinda like to kiss it; or hey I like this person a lot, I want to show that, and the way you show extreme affection is by pressing your lips to your face so I wanna do that; but like not even in a romantic sense?
Like I'd kiss literally everyone in this chat (well…. I guess the active ones who have stuck around that I actually know) on the cheek or forehead or whatever, but like… platonically whoo
That is a really good outlook on soulmates! :)
lol hi Kay
thank you lol
we're having a late night existential discussion and you're welcome to join if you'd like
and like
IDK it's so dumb lol
bc the circumstances I was born into make my experience really unique, and to find you, Sol, who's experiencing a somewhat similar thing (bc you also have like, genderfluid, and we're at such diff ages and dealing with it in entirely diff cultures in terms of state/politics), is just amazing.
But like…. if I wasn't born Mormon, or even Christian, I'd be letting my bi/ace flag fly and you know maybe I'd've kissed a girl. But you know maybe not bc like…. haven't kissed any guys either. Or like…. even really wanted to besides… oh that person's face is nice I'd kinda like to kiss it; or hey I like this person a lot, I want to show that, and the way you show extreme affection is by pressing your lips to your face so I wanna do that; but like not even in a romantic sense?
Like I'd kiss literally everyone in this chat (well…. I guess the active ones who have stuck around that I actually know) on the cheek or forehead or whatever, but like… platonically whoo
Exactly. And lol
But I often wonder who decided
'You know what, I really like this person imma go stick my tongue in their mouth/press my lips on their skin'
and like
is true love even real?
Bc while I love to believe soulmates are real
I don't think there's just one person out there who I could be happy with. Being bi I like to think there's at least two, a guy and a girl, bc if there's only one person who I can really be happy with, am I really bi? Does having a romantic soulmate of one gender invalidate one's attraction to a diff gender or multiple genders?
Like… IDK I feel like some things are just too good to be true sometimes…. and true love sometimes seems like one of those things. Bc for every couple that's perfect and lovey dovey there's prob another that's falling apart and like… why is true love so elusive?Well, being happy with a single person does not invalidate the attraction to other genders
But soulmates are bullshit in my opinion
So
but like
okay
so I don't think this is the way it is
but what if everything is predestined
we're all following a script. And no matter how few or how many crushes I have along the way, I'll eventually be with…. IDK let's say a guy named Josh cause I like that name. I'm gonna end up with Josh no matter what I do, no matter how many girls I like, so like…. why am I bi? Why spend time wanting girls when my life is laid out before me and I don't really have a choice? Like… who gave me this thing that's gonna get in the way of me falling for Josh? Why do I have this thing? Did I choose this before I came to earth bc I thought it would be fun?
Oh yeah, I'll like girls AND boys bc I like to torture myself and give myself choice paralysis heck yeah let's go
Exactly. And lol
But I often wonder who decided
'You know what, I really like this person imma go stick my tongue in their mouth/press my lips on their skin
yeah
and for the record
kissing with tongue is gross imo
like…. no why would I want anyone's tongue in my mouth
(also kay we're both ace/sex-repulsed so like… if you're allosexual we aren't trying to hate on you, we're just voicing our things, so like…. don't hate on us pls lol)
lolol, french kissing is kinda weird. It's okay don't worry. I'm Pansexual actually so i'm cool ;P
and like
is true love even real?
Bc while I love to believe soulmates are real
I don't think there's just one person out there who I could be happy with. Being bi I like to think there's at least two, a guy and a girl, bc if there's only one person who I can really be happy with, am I really bi? Does having a romantic soulmate of one gender invalidate one's attraction to a diff gender or multiple genders?
Like… IDK I feel like some things are just too good to be true sometimes…. and true love sometimes seems like one of those things. Bc for every couple that's perfect and lovey dovey there's prob another that's falling apart and like… why is true love so elusive?Well, being happy with a single person does not invalidate the attraction to other genders
But soulmates are bullshit in my opinion
Sobut like
okay
so I don't think this is the way it is
but what if everything is predestined
we're all following a script. And no matter how few or how many crushes I have along the way, I'll eventually be with…. IDK let's say a guy named Josh cause I like that name. I'm gonna end up with Josh no matter what I do, no matter how many girls I like, so like…. why am I bi? Why spend time wanting girls when my life is laid out before me and I don't really have a choice? Like… who gave me this thing that's gonna get in the way of me falling for Josh? Why do I have this thing? Did I choose this before I came to earth bc I thought it would be fun?
Oh yeah, I'll like girls AND boys bc I like to torture myself and give myself choice paralysis heck yeah let's go
Well
Say you were born
And all your life you knew you were destined for Josh. No matter what you did or who you liked, you were meant for Josh.
So, what would happen then? Is it really the end that matters, or the journey along the way?
Exactly. And lol
But I often wonder who decided
'You know what, I really like this person imma go stick my tongue in their mouth/press my lips on their skinyeah
and for the record
kissing with tongue is gross imo
like…. no why would I want anyone's tongue in my mouth
(also kay we're both ace/sex-repulsed so like… if you're allosexual we aren't trying to hate on you, we're just voicing our things, so like…. don't hate on us pls lol)
Eww exactly like
Mm yes baby your mouth tastes so gooood oh I love you
It makes no sense to me
I saw this thing and it said "what if your soulmate dies before you and they become like your guardian angel who watches over you until you can join them in the afterlife." i thought that was a really cool idea.
Well
Say you were born
And all your life you knew you were destined for Josh. No matter what you did or who you liked, you were meant for Josh.
So, what would happen then? Is it really the end that matters, or the journey along the way?
See IDEK
bc what if the journey sucks
like I am all for adventures
but like
IDK I guess life is about learning
but like
okay
adventures you don't have an end goal
journeys you are gonna reach this one destination no matter what
I like adventures
I like choosing my life and where it goes
but like…. IDK I don't wanna be stuck on a journey when I could be having an adventure
Well
Say you were born
And all your life you knew you were destined for Josh. No matter what you did or who you liked, you were meant for Josh.
So, what would happen then? Is it really the end that matters, or the journey along the way?See IDEK
bc what if the journey sucks
like I am all for adventures
but like
IDK I guess life is about learning
but like
okay
adventures you don't have an end goal
journeys you are gonna reach this one destination no matter what
I like adventures
I like choosing my life and where it goes
but like…. IDK I don't wanna be stuck on a journey when I could be having an adventure
Well
If soulmates are real you're out of luck
It makes no sense to me
see it's dumb
ALSO there was literally a spider that walked across my screen (my light is out lol and it's just my laptop screen) and I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE IT CAME FROM AND FROM THE WAY I WAS SITTING IT WAS PROB ON ME AT ONE POINT AND I JUST DIDN'T SEE AND AHHHHH
I got up after like… throwing my laptop down then flipping my sleeping bag and I think it's on the floor somewhere over there so ha now I have the creepy crawly feeling everywhere and I hate it okay back to existential discussions
I saw this thing and it said "what if your soulmate dies before you and they become like your guardian angel who watches over you until you can join them in the afterlife." i thought that was a really cool idea.
Ooh yes I saw that it is cool
It makes no sense to me
see it's dumb
ALSO there was literally a spider that walked across my screen (my light is out lol and it's just my laptop screen) and I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE IT CAME FROM AND FROM THE WAY I WAS SITTING IT WAS PROB ON ME AT ONE POINT AND I JUST DIDN'T SEE AND AHHHHH
I got up after like… throwing my laptop down then flipping my sleeping bag and I think it's on the floor somewhere over there so ha now I have the creepy crawly feeling everywhere and I hate it okay back to existential discussions
lol I'm laughing at you sorry
But I can relate
Well
Say you were born
And all your life you knew you were destined for Josh. No matter what you did or who you liked, you were meant for Josh.
So, what would happen then? Is it really the end that matters, or the journey along the way?See IDEK
bc what if the journey sucks
like I am all for adventures
but like
IDK I guess life is about learning
but like
okay
adventures you don't have an end goal
journeys you are gonna reach this one destination no matter what
I like adventures
I like choosing my life and where it goes
but like…. IDK I don't wanna be stuck on a journey when I could be having an adventureWell
If soulmates are real you're out of luck
I don't think we have just one soulmate tho
I think we have several
again I'm bi and like…. yeah no I don't want to be destined to end with a guy or with a girl, I want to CHOOSE
It makes no sense to me
see it's dumb
ALSO there was literally a spider that walked across my screen (my light is out lol and it's just my laptop screen) and I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE IT CAME FROM AND FROM THE WAY I WAS SITTING IT WAS PROB ON ME AT ONE POINT AND I JUST DIDN'T SEE AND AHHHHH
I got up after like… throwing my laptop down then flipping my sleeping bag and I think it's on the floor somewhere over there so ha now I have the creepy crawly feeling everywhere and I hate it okay back to existential discussionslol I'm laughing at you sorry
But I can relate
don't laughhhhhhhhh
I saw this thing and it said "what if your soulmate dies before you and they become like your guardian angel who watches over you until you can join them in the afterlife." i thought that was a really cool idea.
that is a really cool idea
I've dealt with far too many spiders recently
5.
5 spiders.
that's 5 too many.
I've dealt with far too many spiders recently
5.
5 spiders.
that's 5 too many.
Eugh agreed
I've dealt with far too many spiders recently
5.
5 spiders.
that's 5 too many.Eugh agreed
i hate spiders…