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@Crisis

OH so random but I saw my cousin for the first time in a while at the play today. He looks v different with braces

@Crisis

Oh just something that could give away my location
I'm an idiot
Idk why I mentioned I had to change it instead of immediately changing it

@kat_i_am

Oh just something that could give away my location
I'm an idiot
Idk why I mentioned I had to change it instead of immediately changing it

oh okay lol

@kat_i_am

okay so
the topic(s) of the night is….
sexuality/asexuality/romantic orientation/whatnot along those lines you know what I mean
falling in love
and true love
Inspired by me watching fluffy romantic stuff and having just like…. IDK I'm actually kinda already over my crush on Jess and I guess I don't really have any romantic interests rn and like…. IDK it leaves me wondering like… as an ace, and with my experiences, can I ever really fall in love, what even is true love, how do humans even fall in love, and like…. idk dumb stuff like that
discuss

@kat_i_am

like
okay 4 crushes right
but every time I tell a crush I like them…. I then get over the crush, even if it's reciprocated? like that one time I was in a relationship for 3 months but the first was way too awkward and figuring stuff out, month 2 we kinda started holding hands, and month 3 I was kinda focused on getting out of it all lol
like how do you even stay in love

@Crisis

Well
I am over Shelley
But uh
I might have a crush in my other friend now??? Idk it might just be bc I have not seen her in a while

@kat_i_am

and can aces even really be in love? I've never fallen in love before, I know I haven't. Like crushes, sure, but like…. I've never gotten the physiological side of falling in love that everyone talks about
like…. idk what if I'm doomed to never actually find my true love
or what if I think I find them and marry them but then I realize I made the wrong choice and my partner isn't happy with who I am

@Crisis

like
okay 4 crushes right
but every time I tell a crush I like them…. I then get over the crush, even if it's reciprocated? like that one time I was in a relationship for 3 months but the first was way too awkward and figuring stuff out, month 2 we kinda started holding hands, and month 3 I was kinda focused on getting out of it all lol
like how do you even stay in love

Yeah
Love is weird

@kat_i_am

Well
I am over Shelley
But uh
I might have a crush in my other friend now??? Idk it might just be bc I have not seen her in a while

yeah I get that
like… IDK even my crushes are more like… hey I wanna know you and be friends with you and then I guess once we're good friends I end up telling them and then I "fall out of love" which is really impossible bc I wasn't even in love to start with

@Crisis

and can aces even really be in love? I've never fallen in love before, I know I haven't. Like crushes, sure, but like…. I've never gotten the physiological side of falling in love that everyone talks about
like…. idk what if I'm doomed to never actually find my true love
or what if I think I find them and marry them but then I realize I made the wrong choice and my partner isn't happy with who I am

You probably just haven't found anyone you really love yet
Love isn't centered around sex, so idk

@Crisis

Well
I am over Shelley
But uh
I might have a crush in my other friend now??? Idk it might just be bc I have not seen her in a while

yeah I get that
like… IDK even my crushes are more like… hey I wanna know you and be friends with you and then I guess once we're good friends I end up telling them and then I "fall out of love" which is really impossible bc I wasn't even in love to start with

Oof yeah
Gosh crushes are so strange

@kat_i_am

and can aces even really be in love? I've never fallen in love before, I know I haven't. Like crushes, sure, but like…. I've never gotten the physiological side of falling in love that everyone talks about
like…. idk what if I'm doomed to never actually find my true love
or what if I think I find them and marry them but then I realize I made the wrong choice and my partner isn't happy with who I am

You probably just haven't found anyone you really love yet
Love isn't centered around sex, so idk

I know it's not centered around sex but like
IDK
I guess I'm just like… questioning my mode of existence, hence the late night discussion lol

@Crisis

and can aces even really be in love? I've never fallen in love before, I know I haven't. Like crushes, sure, but like…. I've never gotten the physiological side of falling in love that everyone talks about
like…. idk what if I'm doomed to never actually find my true love
or what if I think I find them and marry them but then I realize I made the wrong choice and my partner isn't happy with who I am

You probably just haven't found anyone you really love yet
Love isn't centered around sex, so idk

I know it's not centered around sex but like
IDK
I guess I'm just like… questioning my mode of existence, hence the late night discussion lol

Oh gosh I wish I could try and help you there but I'm questioning a whole lotta shit too

@kat_i_am

like
okay
I guess I just had a lot of friends in HS who like…. were dating their person and some of them had been dating since middle school so I was surrounded by this serial dating culture and I guess it just left me with both the mindset that one, I need a partner, and two, an idea of what it should be like?
but I haven't had that?
and like there's that one quote which is dumb and so heteronormative now that I realize I'm typing it out- you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince
but like….. I haven't had many frogs…. and I haven't kissed any of them lol
like…. IDK I might not even be into kissing how can I find my person then
wait I'm getting too into the metaphor

@kat_i_am

and can aces even really be in love? I've never fallen in love before, I know I haven't. Like crushes, sure, but like…. I've never gotten the physiological side of falling in love that everyone talks about
like…. idk what if I'm doomed to never actually find my true love
or what if I think I find them and marry them but then I realize I made the wrong choice and my partner isn't happy with who I am

You probably just haven't found anyone you really love yet
Love isn't centered around sex, so idk

I know it's not centered around sex but like
IDK
I guess I'm just like… questioning my mode of existence, hence the late night discussion lol

Oh gosh I wish I could try and help you there but I'm questioning a whole lotta shit too

then let's just throw all our questions out and comment where we can

@Crisis

like
okay
I guess I just had a lot of friends in HS who like…. were dating their person and some of them had been dating since middle school so I was surrounded by this serial dating culture and I guess it just left me with both the mindset that one, I need a partner, and two, an idea of what it should be like?
but I haven't had that?
and like there's that one quote which is dumb and so heteronormative now that I realize I'm typing it out- you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince
but like….. I haven't had many frogs…. and I haven't kissed any of them lol
like…. IDK I might not even be into kissing how can I find my person then
wait I'm getting too into the metaphor

Yeah
Like
I'm in middle school, and everyone is already dating and shit (apparent except for me) there's ppl crying over their datemates already and like
I know nothing

@kat_i_am

and like
IDK
only 1% of the earth's population is ace
more likely than not I will end up in an allo/ace relationship, not an ace/ace relationship
like…. IDK what do I do….. like the culture around relationships is so messed up. Like literally all the songs and movies are about sex and like…. IDK I've become hyper aware of it since realizing I was ace and like…. It really bugs me

@Crisis

and can aces even really be in love? I've never fallen in love before, I know I haven't. Like crushes, sure, but like…. I've never gotten the physiological side of falling in love that everyone talks about
like…. idk what if I'm doomed to never actually find my true love
or what if I think I find them and marry them but then I realize I made the wrong choice and my partner isn't happy with who I am

You probably just haven't found anyone you really love yet
Love isn't centered around sex, so idk

I know it's not centered around sex but like
IDK
I guess I'm just like… questioning my mode of existence, hence the late night discussion lol

Oh gosh I wish I could try and help you there but I'm questioning a whole lotta shit too

then let's just throw all our questions out and comment where we can

alright dope
Gimme a minute to figure out exactly what I'm questioning first

@kat_i_am

like
okay
I guess I just had a lot of friends in HS who like…. were dating their person and some of them had been dating since middle school so I was surrounded by this serial dating culture and I guess it just left me with both the mindset that one, I need a partner, and two, an idea of what it should be like?
but I haven't had that?
and like there's that one quote which is dumb and so heteronormative now that I realize I'm typing it out- you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince
but like….. I haven't had many frogs…. and I haven't kissed any of them lol
like…. IDK I might not even be into kissing how can I find my person then
wait I'm getting too into the metaphor

Yeah
Like
I'm in middle school, and everyone is already dating and shit (apparent except for me) there's ppl crying over their datemates already and like
I know nothing

yeah I totally get that
and I was The Good Mormon Girl who didn't date till I was 16 and it wasn't even hard for me bc like…. I didn't even like anyone???? until I was like…. 15??? so it's not that long to wait
but even tho I was in a relationship for 3 months I still know nothing about actually being in a relationship bc like…. IDK it was Q's first relationship too and he was really really nervous and honestly we were kind of a mess. And like I said, month 3 was me like… okay I gotta get out and figure myself out first.

@Crisis

and like
IDK
only 1% of the earth's population is ace
more likely than not I will end up in an allo/ace relationship, not an ace/ace relationship
like…. IDK what do I do….. like the culture around relationships is so messed up. Like literally all the songs and movies are about sex and like…. IDK I've become hyper aware of it since realizing I was ace and like…. It really bugs me

Ugh same
And like
I'm so afraid of sex
I don't want to be in a relationship dependent on sex but it's more than likely to happen

@kat_i_am

like the world's view of relationships is just so skewed and terrible and exclusive and I just hate it???
like I actually dig the Mormon style of dating where you don't steady date until you're seriously looking at marriage
like hey I'm bi and I'm ready to fly let me date lots of ppl before settling down with just one
and let me do it without your judgement please and thank you