forum The LGBTQ+ Community Chat :) Part 2!
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@amber_is_in_a_loop

hello guys, gals, nb pals, i need some help.

so my friend came out to me about feeling a ton of gender envy and has a history of wanting to cosplay girls, making girls to play in video games, and expressing interest in "girl" hairstyles. they've related to a lot of trans memes and last week asked to be called a girl name, but now they've hit a slump and don't know whether they are trans or if they're overthinking it into making themselves trans. They're very confused on whether they actually feel like a girl or just tricking themselves into thinking they want to be (hopefully i phrased this coherently). So, with their blessing in asking for advice as neither of us know how to deal with this, any advice or thoughts/experiences with this sort of thing? It would be very much appreciated.

I would honestly recommend they test things out, names and pronouns and makeup and stuff. Let them decide what feels comfortable before trying to decide on a label :)

@Becfromthedead group

hello guys, gals, nb pals, i need some help.

so my friend came out to me about feeling a ton of gender envy and has a history of wanting to cosplay girls, making girls to play in video games, and expressing interest in "girl" hairstyles. they've related to a lot of trans memes and last week asked to be called a girl name, but now they've hit a slump and don't know whether they are trans or if they're overthinking it into making themselves trans. They're very confused on whether they actually feel like a girl or just tricking themselves into thinking they want to be (hopefully i phrased this coherently). So, with their blessing in asking for advice as neither of us know how to deal with this, any advice or thoughts/experiences with this sort of thing? It would be very much appreciated.

I agree with what everyone else has said so far. Plus, I would add that they should probably start small with new name and different pronouns, just around trusted friends to test the waters. Plus of course, incorporating whatever other "feminine" things they want into their style. Once you've come out as trans, or as anything really, it can be kind of weird if you figure out something else entirely about yourself.
And from what I've experienced and from hearing others' experiences, it's super common when you're questioning gender to be like "am I faking it?" And the answer is no. Literally unless you say you're trans with the intent of getting attention or something (which is so incredibly uncommon I've never known anyone to), you aren't faking it. You can't really fake it without knowing you're faking it.

@EtherealDreamer

So I got some eyeliner and it’s so hard to put on but at least I look great

my friend Kassie does her eyeliner everyday and she always looks jealous, but when I do mine it looks like a five year old painted on my face.

@Becfromthedead group

So I got some eyeliner and it’s so hard to put on but at least I look great

Hell yeah!
Also practice makes perfect with eyeliner. I used to absolutely suck at applying it, but I got good after doing it a bunch (and as such, failing a bunch).
(Also shoutout to NYX eyeliner for lasting me through 3 different funerals <3)

@Katastrophic group

Thanks for the advice everyone! My friend also says thank you. It really helps to have others weigh in and validate her situation, anxiety and dysphoria is not a great mix.

@EtherealDreamer

Thanks for the advice everyone! My friend also says thank you. It really helps to have others weigh in and validate her situation, anxiety and dysphoria is not a great mix.

yeah it really isnt, but tell her I said if the mix of anxiety and dysphoria gets to strong, and she feels its swallows her whole life, the to seek help either friends or a professional, because that mix of anxiety and dysphoria can cause you to do idiotic things sometimes, especially if you let it get to strong. (on the anxiety end, dysphoria seems more uncontrollable from person experience so-)

@EtherealDreamer

we had a discussion in Global Issue's today about how pronouns are important, and these two people were like "because of my religion, im not really cool with that, but I will use a person's pronouns, just because they ask" and as a non-binary person; I felt like my opinion was strictly related to that, and I didnt feel like outing myself so I just asked to use the bathroom and didn't come back until the end of the period bell rang, because the topic was getting a little heated against people who agreed and people who didnt.

@Becfromthedead group

Also just saw two people call one character's whole sexuality journey a cop-out <3
Because part of his storyline is coming to terms with his attraction towards men, and they then kind of clarify that he likes women.
So like. A whole bisexual.
They act like when he said that he liked girls it erases his queerness, and I'm NOT here for the bi erasure.

@Musical_Queen

Just had to take a bunch of tests on emotional intelligence for my psych class and all of them said I had shit emotional intelligence. Then, we had to do a live discussion board about it and one person posted "I'm gay, that's why I scored so low" And I'm just sitting here like "what?"

@DuckDuck487

here's a few stories from the haunted house I just went to:
1: my girl friends and I were being like "I love you," to the actors cus joking is the best way to not be scared
2: we were all being like "eeeyyyyy, shawty" to the girls and "sorry, I'm gay" to the guys and doing the gay hand thing to see if the actors would react
3: one of my friends asked one of the actors if they were gay and she said yessssss!!!!
4: One clown said if we wanted to see a joke to one of my guy friends. The clown said to look in the mirror
5: I did the hand thing to a clown who I suspected was gay and they smiled and stared twitching :]
6: my mom made me bring a rosary to it(cus it deals with witchcraft ig), so as a joke I got a few "THE POWER OF JESUS" in while I was screaming

@Becfromthedead group

Also does anyone feel like they want the body of a male yet still be feminine? Cus that's what I feel right now

Yes!!!! Or like, I want a combination of masc/fem features sometimes? Like I'm cool with my boobs bc they're little and easy to bind should I want to.
I love my curves, I hate my curves.
I don't want people to perceive me as a woman, I don't want to be a man.
Gender is a bitch.

@DuckDuck487

Yes!!!! Or like, I want a combination of masc/fem features sometimes? Like I'm cool with my boobs bc they're little and easy to bind should I want to.
I love my curves, I hate my curves.
I don't want people to perceive me as a woman, I don't want to be a man.
Gender is a bitch.

Exactly!

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does anyone know if it's a bones or no bones day, feels like a no bones day with how my day is going

i haven't seen anything yet, but i'm predicting a no bones day

@michael_rainer_eats_uranium group

does anyone know if it's a bones or no bones day, feels like a no bones day with how my day is going

For me, it’s a bones day, since I now have a boyfriend and he is the sweetest goddamn being on this planet

Update: I just realized that sounded like an innuendo. It was not intended to be an innuendo-