forum The LGBTQ+ Community Chat :) Part 2!

Started September 25, 2020 by @Moxie group

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Bec, you have a redbubble shop, right? I mentioned it to a friend and she wants the link

Yeah! Here you go! becfromthedead.redbubble.com

Oh, that's not a direct link :/ it brings it up in Google tho

https://www.redbubble.com/people/becfromthedead/shop?asc=u
There we go!

Thanks!!

Of course! Thanks for sharing my shop!

y'all, a girl in my first period theatre class cussed out our teacher and dropped out of the show all over a very reasonable phone policy

y'all, a girl in my first period theatre class cussed out our teacher and dropped out of the show all over a very reasonable phone policy

wow- thats tough-

y'all, a girl in my first period theatre class cussed out our teacher and dropped out of the show all over a very reasonable phone policy

wow- thats tough-

Legit, the whole policy is that we can't use our phones backstage since there are people quick changing, it's all so that a camera won't be on them, she's always on her phone talking to her boyfriend but tried lying saying she's talking to her grandma and when our teacher tried to talk to her about it in her office, she cussed her out, called her a f-cking b-tch, and left class, they tried calling her to the deans office but she left the school campus

y'all, a girl in my first period theatre class cussed out our teacher and dropped out of the show all over a very reasonable phone policy

wow- thats tough-

Legit, the whole policy is that we can't use our phones backstage since there are people quick changing, it's all so that a camera won't be on them, she's always on her phone talking to her boyfriend but tried lying saying she's talking to her grandma and when our teacher tried to talk to her about it in her office, she cussed her out, called her a f-cking b-tch, and left class, they tried calling her to the deans office but she left the school campus

she boutta get in so much trouble bruh-

[barges in]

I HAVE GENDER QUESTIONS-

How loose of a term genderfluid cuz right now it's looking pretty appealing to me?!?! I'm AFAB but I've never really felt fully female but it's not like I don't want to be female and right now she/they pronouns are fine but I recently experienced some gender dysphoria and I didnt like that very much and now I'm looking at masc stuff and going "yo that looks neat but I don't wanna fully commit" so yes. I think genderfluid might fit me but I'm not too sure…

I've got info!!
Genderfluid is like sliding back and forth on the Gender Spectrum, so it for sure could fit. Fluxfluid could also fit, where it's sliding back and force and up and down for the intensity of the gender being felt.

[barges in]

I HAVE GENDER QUESTIONS-

How loose of a term genderfluid cuz right now it's looking pretty appealing to me?!?! I'm AFAB but I've never really felt fully female but it's not like I don't want to be female and right now she/they pronouns are fine but I recently experienced some gender dysphoria and I didnt like that very much and now I'm looking at masc stuff and going "yo that looks neat but I don't wanna fully commit" so yes. I think genderfluid might fit me but I'm not too sure…

I knew I was genderfluid when I caught myself constantly wishing I was born a boy or feeling masculine or sometimes wishing I was just a being with no genitals, no breasts, and nothing down there at all, but then sometimes (rarely) I would be glad I was born a girl. It was all very confusing but my gender switched quite often between masculine/guy to an enby/gender neutral, so I knew something was up.

I'm afab, genderflux, she/they, and I basically fluctuate in my levels of femininity and androgyny, with very slight masculinity at some times.
I don't ever really mind my genitals one way or another, but sometimes I don't want people to know I have boobs lol.
I feel more top dysphoria, not really for my legs and all that, even though I'm pretty curvy.
Like I don't really mind my body that much, but expressing feminine in dress and mannerisms sometimes makes me feel gross.

Yeah similar to what the other people are saying, my relationship with my gender is "eh it's there, and sometimes it's louder than other times." Be prepared for the never ending cycle of "am I actually a trans guy?" right over to "am I actually a cis woman and just faking it?"

TW: kind of a vent about parents

Also am I low key about to cry looking at the converse pride collection and knowing I won't be able to buy any because it's doubtful my parents will let me come out fully socially until I go to college? Yes, yes I am.
It just kinda hit me that my parents (or my dad at least) kind of thinks it's a phase, or are hoping I'll marry a man so it won't even matter.
It hurts seeing people who's parents will put in the work of trying to understand their sexuality, either by asking them or looking it up in their own time. I know I'll probably never get anything like that.
But at least my mom did actually remember my sexuality, so that was nice

Ooh I get it. Note-if it feels like I am barging in, please let me know, I would hate to bludgeon your conversations with my social maladaption. But in all honesty, I can understand where you’re coming from. I used to look at all sorts of pride things and wish desperately that I could be part of that. That I could be open about who I was. Now, I’ve been living on my own for three years and I’ve been on T for two so I’m very lucky to be where I’m at. But I remember that my parents would go with our church to pride parades in order to protest, in order to scream profanities and purvey disgusting slurs at those poor people, thinking we were saving them. Seriously, my parents were hardcore about gay and queer things. But trust me, it does get better. I’m so much better now, even with all the internalized queerphobia I’m better than I ever was living with them. You will be able to move out someday and you will be able to live the life you were always meant to. You will find community and wholeness, there are people out there who will love you as you are and not expect more or less.

And I know it hurts now. But there is a future for you, if you just wait a little longer. Waiting hurts, but it’s worth it for the love you will find one day.

I didn't really come out until my second year of college. It's doesn't always feel good to have to wait, but when you get there, I can assure you that not only will you be able to more fully be yourself, but you will find people who you care about as much as family if not more, and they'll return that sentiment.
My parents don't know. I don't think they'd approve, like at all. And because I'm engaged to a guy (read: I am a genderflux afab marrying an enby amab, and we're both bisexual as all fuck), there's also the chance they'd think I'm attention-seeking.
It's really hurtful, it's really sad that a lot of our parents don't actually show love as unconditionally as they claim to.
But I promise things get better! You will eventually be set free of the expectations they hold for you, and while it kind of hurts knowing that they may never approve, either they'll come around or they won't, but that'll prove whether they're good people who love their child no matter what or not. It's no reflection of your worth.
Of course, it's only natural to be jealous of those with supportive parents. I think we all share that sentiment, at least a little.
(And trust me. Going crazy going stupid obtaining pride merch behind your parents' backs in college is fun af. It's something to look forward to lmao)

Eeeeee thanks you guys this really helped a lot <3

I'm constantly somewhere between "I hate skirts" and "I want to go to Hot Topic and buy a skirt so I can wear it with rainbow over-the-knee socks and Doc. Martens" and although I have a coupon for Hot Topic, I'm otherwise broke

I'm constantly somewhere between "I hate skirts" and "I want to go to Hot Topic and buy a skirt so I can wear it with rainbow over-the-knee socks and Doc. Martens" and although I have a coupon for Hot Topic, I'm otherwise broke

me too, I see girls wearing them and im like "thats so pretty, I want one" but my gender flips so often its a problem and I dont think i'd be comfortable overall.

I'm constantly somewhere between "I hate skirts" and "I want to go to Hot Topic and buy a skirt so I can wear it with rainbow over-the-knee socks and Doc. Martens" and although I have a coupon for Hot Topic, I'm otherwise broke

me too, I see girls wearing them and im like "thats so pretty, I want one" but my gender flips so often its a problem and I dont think i'd be comfortable overall.

Saaaame like I plan an outfit with a skirt and then the next day when I actually try to wear it I’m like “no I hate it :)”
I actually did wear a skirt this week tho and I felt really hot ngl XD

I'm constantly somewhere between "I hate skirts" and "I want to go to Hot Topic and buy a skirt so I can wear it with rainbow over-the-knee socks and Doc. Martens" and although I have a coupon for Hot Topic, I'm otherwise broke

me too, I see girls wearing them and im like "thats so pretty, I want one" but my gender flips so often its a problem and I dont think i'd be comfortable overall.

Saaaame like I plan an outfit with a skirt and then the next day when I actually try to wear it I’m like “no I hate it :)”
I actually did wear a skirt this week tho and I felt really hot ngl XD

aha I hate skirts because my lower body gives me severe
✨gender dysphoria✨
along with the rest of my body

I'm constantly somewhere between "I hate skirts" and "I want to go to Hot Topic and buy a skirt so I can wear it with rainbow over-the-knee socks and Doc. Martens" and although I have a coupon for Hot Topic, I'm otherwise broke

me too, I see girls wearing them and im like "thats so pretty, I want one" but my gender flips so often its a problem and I dont think i'd be comfortable overall.

Saaaame like I plan an outfit with a skirt and then the next day when I actually try to wear it I’m like “no I hate it :)”
I actually did wear a skirt this week tho and I felt really hot ngl XD

aha I hate skirts because my lower body gives me severe
✨gender dysphoria✨
along with the rest of my body

^^^^^^^ same

um i don’t want to tell my friends this because they will be so worried they might die but i had a self harm relapse and its kind of getting bad again and i don’t know what to do

um i don’t want to tell my friends this because they will be so worried they might die but i had a self harm relapse and its kind of getting bad again and i don’t know what to do

oh my-
I cant give advice on that, considering that's an issue I still have myself-

Okay well as someone who’s going on just above a month maybe I can help?
Honestly it’s getting really really hard to stay clean again but every time I feel like it I distract myself with one of my comfort movies and that usually works, plus I make it feel like it’s inaccessible (as in, since it’s usually at night, I’ll make sure everything is out away and I get into bed and turn off the light and that seems to do something to my brain and calms me down
Also, when I feel up to it, I take a shower to try and ground myself. Also ice and ice water have helped, and maybe something artistic? I like collaging so I usually put on a longer markiplier video and do that

There’s probably more I can think of, tell me what you need <3

And then you'd do it for her,
that's how you know you can win,
you'd do it for her,
that is to say
you'd
do it for him.