forum The LGBTQ+ Community Chat :) Part 2!
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@Boots

I would say that you first figure out if they're gay, make some sort of reference or something along those lines :)
Though take my words with a grain of salt, I'm aromantic

@ClownB*tch eco

hey yall im back from my short disappearance and ummm how do i tell my best friend she is like the best person ever and like if it's ok with her i'd love to give her a kiss (with masks on tho) ummm yea

@larcenistarsonist group

I have met my new best friend.

I don't know their name yet I just know I'm in platonic love if that makes any sense at all.

But we were out shopping today and I was totally vibing with my 90's grunge look (doc martens, extremely high waisted and extremely ripped light acid wash jeans, black foo fighters t-shirt, leather jacket with all sorts of pins in it including a pansexual and demigirl pride pins, straight hair and a little bit of eyeliner and mascara) and I branched off from my parents and went down a different isle and theRE THEY ARE

MY NEW BEST FRIEND

I recognized them from school, I know they're a year older and I've seen them in the halls before

They're wearing a baby pink skirt with a white polo and a sky blue sweater over it with the collar sticking out and blue low-tops with white socks. They're wearing a mask that has a small little gay pride flag in the corner and had short, curly dirty blonde hair.

I just look them up and down and they look at me and they notice my pride pins and freAKING TIP AN IMAGINARY HAT AND GO "m'theydy" AND JUST :ALKFLAJ:FSKSF:KLASJ:F

I'm smiling like a dope under my mask and laugh and just ALDFAKSDLFJAK

@Musical_Queen

Real Weird story,

So, I was at work, which is cleaning playgrounds for neighborhoods. I also live where it is already almost 100*, so I was wearing a shirt which happened to have a bi flag. A lot of the HOA's requested that it makes the people outside a lot more comfortable if we wear masks, so I was wearing my bi mask too, nothing to weird. But there was a garage sale at a nearby house, so naturally people were driving by and staring. This has happened before, I'm used to it. They stare for like five seconds and either drive away, wave, or ask what I'm doing. But this time, I was raking the sand when this little Nissan drove by and a lady stared. Didn't think much of it, continued on my work. 2 minutes later, same car with the same lady staring. Three, four, five times this happened for at least 30 minutes and she kept staring at me until finally she parked right in from of my car bumper to bumper and just staring at me. I did the normal "procedure" of "I'm not a creepy person doing illegal things at a child's playground" Which was acknowledge them with a smile (As much as you can with a mask) and a slight wave. But when I did that, it seem to set her off. She gasped dramatically and flung her door opened and stormed towards me and walked all through my raking (Which takes forever). She got real close to me and basically screamed "Don't you know it's rude to stare?" I took a step back and quietly muttered "Don't you? Hypocrite" Cause she kept staring at me for 30 minutes. She proceeded to gasp again "Excuse me! I happen to love gay people! You just assumed that I hate gay people. I bet you're the one who hates gay people, you … you!". I stood there for another second before looking at her and said "A hypocrite is someone who contradicts her stated beliefs or feelings. So yeah, The Bisexual person (I gestured to the bi pride flag mask and shirt) hates gay people. Also, the word you were look was homophobe." She looked like she was about to scream at me again when a dud from the garage sale came down. "Excuse me ma'am," He said looking at us, "You're causing a scene. I think it's best that you leave." The woman then looked at me and then laughed "You heard him, LEAVE." the guy then turned to her and said, "She technically can't since someone parked really close to her (Rude Lady's car) and I was actually talking to you since you were screaming." The woman was shocked an was yelling about how she was a tax payer and she was being discriminated and all other sort of things until she yelled "MY HUSBAND IS THE HOA PRESIDENT." The guy then full on laughed and said "That is the worse lie think I've heard today." "Why" "Because I'M the HOA president." The lady quickly paled and basically ran to her car before leaving. The HOA president then apologized and left. I finished that playground and got the hell out of that neighborhood.

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Hey guys….what would you do if you have mental breakdowns from your family and and shitty drama you never asked for???

@Max_Miracle_DroppedMostOfTheirRPs

sorry dude I was replying to something else because I didn't see your message so let me give you some actual advice

It's hard when your family are the ones making everything shitty, my best recommendation is trying to find a safe space, if you can find one in the house that's great, but if not try and find somewhere nearby where you can go when you need to be alone to help clear your head. Somewhere like a park or something. With unwanted drama, just do the best that you can to stay out of it if at all possible. It really depends on the drama for that one.

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I have been trying to be drama free, I've lost about 5 more friends due to me leaving drama. Because i wasnt having it. Also Only place I can go to be "alone" is at school. but that's rare. But thank you again Max! You are also good, i get you are busy *w *.

@Becfromthedead group

Yeah, with the unwanted drama and whatnot, it's your call whether you want to fight back (I don't mean yell and be aggressive, I mean tell them how you feel, correct them gently when they're in the wrong, etc) or let it happen, but stay as far removed from it as you can. My therapist kind of said this to me, and that it's essentially up to you. Whatever protects your mind the best and keeps you feeling better is the "right" decision.
If there's an argument that involves you, you have the power to stop it in the middle, say something along the lines of, "I don't think we're in a good headspace to discuss this right now if we're going to get angry," and remove yourself from the situation.
I'm having family problems as well. It's different for everyone, but what I've done in the past is let drama resolve itself and stay as uninvolved as possible. That said, most drama doesn't involve me. Otherwise, it's my folks saying offensive stuff. I keep my mouth shut because 1. it's hard to change their minds, 2. that might aggravate a situation, and 3. I might not be able to deal with the consequences of an argument, knowing that my mom in particular is very passive aggressive and good at playing victim.
Like Max said, having a safe space is very important. It doesn't have to be a physical location, but it's great if it is.
It's also important to have a good support system outside of your family. So friends. Real life friends if possible, but online friends are great too.
Friends provide a refuge and distraction from the bs that might be going on at home.

@requiemisback language

i wish i had snap (can't get it tho cuz i don't have a phone anymore) :') i have twitter but i don't use it much
i'm mostly active on here and commaful-
and for those who want my commaful @, my acc there is @salem_

@larcenistarsonist group

Aha vent time. For the sake of the story I'm going to label my friends J (male), A and L (both female)

So me and my friends are trying to make plans for the weekend because in L's words "hey guys im feeling depressed and i wanna do something spontaneous what are we doing this weekend". So, I start giving a long ass list of just random things we could do. Granted, only about half of them were doable but it was still somewhat-helpful. So we started making plans for Saturday and then J says that he can't make it because of a wrestling tournament. So, then we ask if we can move it to Friday, but J still has wrestling going on. So. Then I ask if Thursday will work, but then all three of my friends tell me they have OPTIONAL practices for sports that don't start up for another YEAR all week. So yeah, I get kind of irritated. I tell them that I'm open every day of every week except for this coming Sunday because I have family stuff.

And then L asks if we can do it Sunday after her church.

Right after I just said that I couldn't do it then.

So I'm progressively getting more and more irritated as this goes on. I tell them once more that I CANNOT make plans this Sunday and then they just decided to cancel after I got excited to FINALLY spend time with them.

And I am just so pissed because I AM ALWAYS rearranging MY LIFE AND SHIT so the plans work for them, and not me. I've NEVER complained, I've ALWAYS been supportive of them, I've ALWAYS SUCKED IT UP WHILE THEY DO WHATEVER THE HELL THEY WANT.

And that's not the worst of it.

I fucking pulled the "shit mental health" card.

What kind of person does that?

They were just laughing at the fact that they were always so busy and shit and J says "that's what happens when you do sports XD XD"

And then I said "I know, J, that's why I don't do them. I don't do them because I like to have time to spend with people who mean something to me."

Then they were quiet for a few minutes.

And I said "Y'know it's just PEACHY when your friends would rather go to OPTIONAL practices then spend time with a person with shit mental health such as myself"

And I-

I don't know.

This is probably such a shit thing to be so mad about