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Oh hey guys, just an fyi I started a Monster World rp if anyone wants to join. just saying.

@CloudyWithAChanceofSpontaneousCreativity

Anyone else here like, really touch-starved or craving casual physical contact? Because I've been feeling that a lot, lately.

It's like, I just wanna high five my friends, or hug them, or casually hold hands, or lay on them when I'm tired, but it's so hard for me to ask for stuff like that? Especially since a few of them don't like to be touched, which I'm totally fine with respecting their boundaries, and the others are also too awkward to ask for that stuff.

I've been trying to get better at it, but it kinda feels like a hole in my chest and my brain ends up convincing me I'm lonely when I'm really not.

I don't ever really hug my parents or my little sister, and they never seem to initiate anything like that except for rare occasions.

I just don't know how to deal, to be honest.

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I'm exactly the same way!
There's actually psychology behind this, but here's my personal theory:
Your family is supposed to love you, or at least that's how it feels, right? Other people who you aren't related to, like your friends, don't feel like that. So physical affection from them feels special and enjoyable because you know this person is showing love for you even though they don't have to and aren't 'supposed to.'
And that's pretty cool if you think about it.

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As for how to deal, find a friend or two who doesn't mind physical contact. I have a friend who also really like these things, and we hug whenever we see each other, and if one of us needs to be awkwardly held for a few minutes, it's not weird at all. The hard part is trying not to catch feelings.
Is there anyone in your life you could have that with?

@CloudyWithAChanceofSpontaneousCreativity

I'm exactly the same way!
There's actually psychology behind this, but here's my personal theory:
Your family is supposed to love you, or at least that's how it feels, right? Other people who you aren't related to, like your friends, don't feel like that. So physical affection from them feels special and enjoyable because you know this person is showing love for you even though they don't have to and aren't 'supposed to.'
And that's pretty cool if you think about it.

That is pretty cool, honestly. I like your theory—it makes more sense than all the irrational thoughts in my brain.

As for how to deal, find a friend or two who doesn't mind physical contact. I have a friend who also really like these things, and we hug whenever we see each other, and if one of us needs to be awkwardly held for a few minutes, it's not weird at all. The hard part is trying not to catch feelings.
Is there anyone in your life you could have that with?

I admitted this to a friend of mine recently, actually. She and I aren't particularly close, but we bonded over similar problems concerning our difficult (or in my case, nonexistent) love lives, and she's fun to talk to. Anyways, her response was something along the lines of, "Then I'll have to be sure to drop some love on ya," and I thought that was really sweet.

I also have a couple others that probably wouldn't mind in the slightest, but my problem is more.. I don't really know how to ask for it, and since I'm not used to displays of affection like that, I end up kind of projecting my discomfort, and people get reluctant to do it again. Which I feel like is why the girl I mentioned before hasn't made any moves to follow through, even though she's still super nice.

I already caught feelings for a person, so I can't torture myself anymore than agreeing (like I did two weeks ago) to draw a pen tattoo for him,,, on his torso. In art class. Most nerve-wracking twenty minutes of my life, and I haven't been the same since…

@hollow-boned

I already caught feelings for a person, so I can't torture myself anymore than agreeing (like I did two weeks ago) to draw a pen tattoo for him,,, on his torso. In art class. Most nerve-wracking twenty minutes of my life, and I haven't been the same since…

crowley voice you w h a t
you're braver than any us marine

@Althalosian-is-the-father book

we bonded over similar problems concerning our difficult (or in my case, nonexistent) love lives, and she's fun to talk to. Anyways, her response was something along the lines of, "Then I'll have to be sure to drop some love on ya," and I thought that was really sweet.

Dude this is the story of me and my sis friend.

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crowley voice you w h a t
you're braver than any us marine

I promise I'm not—I just don't know how to say no… And he looked so hopeful… It doesn't help that he's tone as hell and that he kept staring at me the entire time…

takes notes for science reasons and writing reasons

@hollow-boned

crowley voice you w h a t
you're braver than any us marine

I promise I'm not—I just don't know how to say no… And he looked so hopeful… It doesn't help that he's tone as hell and that he kept staring at me the entire time…

takes notes for science reasons and writing reasons

y'all rlly out here living your own fanfic huh

@CloudyWithAChanceofSpontaneousCreativity

Dude this is the story of me and my sis friend.

Power in numbers, I suppose?

takes notes for science reasons and writing reasons

it's cool it's not like he's dating the younger sister of a guy I had a crush on way back when, except that particular crush lasted for like seven years, aka all of my childhood, and only ended when I saw him kissing another girl in middle school…

@CloudyWithAChanceofSpontaneousCreativity

crowley voice you w h a t
you're braver than any us marine

I promise I'm not—I just don't know how to say no… And he looked so hopeful… It doesn't help that he's tone as hell and that he kept staring at me the entire time…

takes notes for science reasons and writing reasons

y'all rlly out here living your own fanfic huh

Ahahaha….Kinda? I didn't see this post until after I posted my other one just a second ago, but uh, yeah… It's not going so well for me, in all honesty.

@The-N-U-T-Cracker

So, uhhh… hey
I’ll just get straight to the point

Remember last week when I made a big deal about how I was going to talk to my mom about my mental health/getting help on that exact Wednesday only to find out that my mom couldn’t take me that week and I got all dramatic for nothing? …

Well, this time I looked at the calendar, planned everything out, and, unless something appears out of nowhere, I’m going to get one more chance tomorrow.

I’ve done my research, I think I’ve planned out what I’m going to say and how (although if someone wants to volunteer to kind of read through it, give me tips, and just help me with that a bit that would be very helpful and appreciated), I’ve written down some basic responses to questions she might ask just in case, I’ve even practiced in front of a mirror once, so I think I’m ready…???

I’m just so worried I’ll chicken out at the last minute and lose my chance
It’s either this week, next week, or waiting until mid-January, and if I’m being honest, at the rate things are going…
I don’t know if I can make it until January

So I need to get this over with, for the sake of my friends, family, and me.

…I just need some support/encouragement because I’m really really scared

I know she’ll take it well, she really isn’t the type of person to blame someone for their mental issues or ignore them in any way, she’s a very kind and supportive human…

But that doesn’t mean this won’t be extremely difficult
It’s going to be difficult
Which is why I need support
Thank you so much
I appreciate it a lot

@actual-fandom-trash

Of course it's gonna be difficult. It's not exactly an easy topic.
So, of course, you have our support, dear friend.
All of our supports.
I promise.
I wish you luck for tomorrow!

@Shuri-the-Floof-Doggo

Dude you totally have my support and encouragement! And yeah, it might be difficult but it's not going to get done unless you do it so you might as well. Either way I just want to say that I'm behind you 100% of the way, and I'm sure everyone else will be too!

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