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Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

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I'm glad that your parents accepted that so well. They seem like good people.

Me too. They really are great parents. I love them so much and I know I'm so lucky to have them.

That's great! It's best to have a good relationship with them.

The first person I came out to was my friend last year who is also bi. I was shaking and my voice was shaking and I just said, "I think I'm bi . . ." And she just smiled and told me welcome to the club and it was pretty cool.
The second person I came out to was one of my best friends. My school goes on a camping trip every year and we were alone walking back from our tents and I told her I'm bi and she hugged me and told me she was glad I trusted her enough to tell her.
And then I came out to my best friend a few days after she told my sister and I that she might be bi
And then I came out to my friend last weekend who is pan and out. She told me that she knew I was "too cool to be straight" and she also said the way I sit makes sense now. (I can not sit normally to save my damn life)

I deadpanned to my parents and introduced them to my girlfriend less than five minutes later.

I deadpanned to my parents and introduced them to my girlfriend less than five minutes later.

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I came out to my friends first. One of them thought they were also pan ace(they're just pansexual now, but they were the ones who told me about both of those terms!), and everyone in my friend group was okay with it.

Then I decided to come out to my mom. Just as ace, though, to test the waters.

She said that she was cool about it, the typical "you're still my daughter, I still love you" thing. Then she said something along the lines of "it does make me sad that you're choosing to miss out on such a beautiful part of life." I wanted to tell her that no, it's not a choice, it's who I am, but I've kind of figured out by now that she doesn't listen when someone tries to contradict her. Eventually, I told her that I was panromantic and she–VERY aggressively, I might add–told me that I shouldn't limit myself with labels. Bitch??? Is you illiterate??? The prefix pan means all, stupid, but not everyone's an english nerd, so I explained that to her, and she said "I WASN'T FINISHED"(protip: don't take a long pause if you're nOT DONE TALKING YA DINGUS) and proceeded to tell me that there were only two genders and that people that are genderfluid or nonbinary have some kind of "underlying identity issues" which pissed me off. But of course, I was raised to never contradict anyone ever, god forbid it be my mom and GOD FORBID SHE MIGHT ACTUALLY BE WRONG FOR ONCE.

My dad was cooler about it. And my aunt actually bought me an ace pride tee-shirt for Christmas(it says "ACE AND AWESOME" and has an axolotl carrying an ace pride flag on it and I LOVE IT). Honestly if she asks me why I chose to cut ties with her once I'm out of the house, I'm just going to go. On. A. Fucking. Rant. And probably scream in her face. I could discuss her verbally abusive tendencies and other bs she does but this doesn't really seem like the place to do that…

I'm so sorry. My mom was angry at me when I told her I was bi. She pressured me to not be bi and now that's why I don't go by a sexuality. I know what it's like. I'll be here for you to rant to.

I came out to my friends as pan and trans earlier this year. Last night, I wrote my mum a letter and she was semi-cool with it.

I came out to my friends as pan and trans earlier this year. Last night, I wrote my mum a letter and she was semi-cool with it.

That's a great way to come out to your mum!

I came out to my friends as pan and trans earlier this year. Last night, I wrote my mum a letter and she was semi-cool with it.

That's a great way to come out to your mum!

Yeah. It's also how I told her I have anxiety and depression, since I generally end up crying when I talk about hard subjects like that.

Me too. You're not alone on that. I even cry when I talk online about hard subjects sometimes. I hope your anxiety and depression get easier to cope with.

I hope the same for you.

My brother asked where my mom's pan was (she has this favorite frying pan that she uses for all things) and I walked up, flipped my hair dramatically, struck an epic pose, and said "I'm here!" and he just facepalmed. It was hilarious. We found her frying pan though.

Lmao I'll add that to the list of pan jokes I've read(no I don't have a list yet but I might make one now XD)

Well, glad to be of humor-service.

I came out to all my friends. The only family members I came out to were my cousin and little bro. My cousin is still figuring out her sexuality and my bro is cool with me being bi.

That's good. It's always needed to have people who accept you.

My mom won’t let me watch a movie that’s rated R because of “sex, violence, nudity, drugs and alcohol, over 100 uses of the F word.’ Etc., like I’m 12 years old or something. Sucks that she doesn’t know I’ve watched plenty of tv and movies rated R for the same damn reasons and there isn’t anything I can’t handle in that goddamn movie. She let me watch Inglorious Bastards???? But not A Star is Born????

Seems a little weird.

I know! I’m so pissed and there’s nothing I can do about it!

Was browsing wholesome memes and found this, figured you guys might enjoy looking at it

Have a good day :)

That's so cool! Thanks Ella!

I didn't tell you guys this but over spring break my crush got a purple streak in her hair and when I noticed I just kinda kfjkdjhjks died

Gay!

Yes indeed

!!!! :)

I didn't tell you guys this but over spring break my crush got a purple streak in her hair and when I noticed I just kinda kfjkdjhjks died

That's so cool and so cute!

Hey guys, I saw my dad in person today, the first time i've seen him since coming out. It went well. And I got my black spinner ring that i'm using as my Ace ring today, and my writing class got cancelled, AND my parents got a new car and are letting me have one of the cars as my own car, like I officially have a car that is mine. i mean it's technically not mine because I cant pay for it because college and no job, but i'm going to be the only person using it so it is in essence, mine!!!
today's been a good day.

I had a Star Wars spinner ring but I lost it in Iowa….