forum I have a question about a couple of my characters
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Gracie

I have a powerful female character as my main character. In past stories she didn't have a love interest because I wanted to focus on her. But now I want her in a traditional relationship. Don't get me wrong I'm all for female power and a lot of female dominant relationships are beautiful, but I want this couple to be traditional. I actually want traditional. I have an op badass girl and I need a dominant guy. I was thinking maybe instead of making his class the big deal, maybe his race is what makes him special? Like a shape shifter or a succubus, maybe some kind of animal spirit? What are you suggestions?

@Althalosian-is-the-father book

One. Why the heck is she the most powerful ever? The Mary Sue accusations will start to fly the minute it touches the market. Is this only in battle? Or everything? As for traditional male dominance I guess. Make his authority I suppose emotional. Idk. It could also be a mutual respect kind of dealio. Also fighting with someone better than him does not make him a sissy by any means. Perhaps he can kick ass just fine, it's just she's better at it. Also, love interest for the sake of love interest is pretty meh. It's been used millions of times and if it doesn't significantly add to the good of the story it is probably a waste.

@Althalosian-is-the-father book

If it's a romance that does completely change everything.
Well she might be the only one available, the other person might not want to. There are a couple ways you could swing it. If you don't have something like that it doesn't make sense and you should change it.

@Darkblossom group

So, one question I have is why do you need to have traditional male dominance? This seems like the type of pairing that would work wonderfully with female dominance.

@JuniperJoan

I have a female protagonist who's physically strong and capable in a fight, while her male love interest is a healer. I think writing relationships–healthy, interesting ones, anyway–are based on balance. If your character is a powerful witch, for example, her love interest might be a powerful diplomat or prince. Power comes in many forms. They should also have weakness as well. The witch might be brash and unyielding, while her love interest is cowardly and self-serving. They don't have to be complete opposites, but they should fill plot relevant roles that the other cannot.

'Sissy' can mean a lot of things, so I'm not 100% sure what you want to avoid, but it feels like you don't want him to look like a useless character next to your OP badass. Maybe try giving him different strengths that complement hers and vice versa.

Hope this helps :)

@GoodThingGoing group

Why do you need 'male dominance' in the relationship? Why can't the woman be the 'dominant' one, or have them be in an equal relationship?
You could make him smart in other ways, like tech smart or book smart to her weapons/street smart.

@M.W.Poel

Have him be powerful in a different way so they can support each other in ways others can't. Also, don't get to hung up on who's dominant in the relationship right at the start and make sure it's an actual healthy relationship where both are logically comfortable. Just figure out how you would want them to interact with each other in private and when people are around.
Example:
private= curled up against each other on the sofa watching Disney films
public= purely professional, maximum of calling each other honey by accident.

Gracie

I have a female protagonist who's physically strong and capable in a fight, while her male love interest is a healer. I think writing relationships–healthy, interesting ones, anyway–are based on balance. If your character is a powerful witch, for example, her love interest might be a powerful diplomat or prince. Power comes in many forms. They should also have weakness as well. The witch might be brash and unyielding, while her love interest is cowardly and self-serving. They don't have to be complete opposites, but they should fill plot relevant roles that the other cannot.

'Sissy' can mean a lot of things, so I'm not 100% sure what you want to avoid, but it feels like you don't want him to look like a useless character next to your OP badass. Maybe try giving him different strengths that complement hers and vice versa.

Hope this helps :)

It does I love this answer. Thank you, See some people on here instead of trying to help you they tell you that its wrong or that I should just not do it or change it. But that makes me mad cause I'm a firm believer that there is always a loop whole where all the people that matter can win and be happy and when I read comments like that it makes me sad and changes my dream! Y'know when your really passionate about a story? My father and I have been building this story since I was six and its hard to completely change something that you feel tat attached too. Thank you :))))))

@Darkblossom group

So, one question I have is why do you need to have traditional male dominance? This seems like the type of pairing that would work wonderfully with female dominance.

OK! Some people don't like that! and I get it female power woo! BUT WHAT IF I do like it. "Why do you need to have an traditional relationship???" CAUSE i can.

Hey! I was just trying to help.

Gracie

So, one question I have is why do you need to have traditional male dominance? This seems like the type of pairing that would work wonderfully with female dominance.

OK! Some people don't like that! and I get it female power woo! BUT WHAT IF I do like it. "Why do you need to have an traditional relationship???" CAUSE i can.

Hey! I was just trying to help.

Of course! You very much did! Thank you!:))))

@JuniperJoan

I have a female protagonist who's physically strong and capable in a fight, while her male love interest is a healer. I think writing relationships–healthy, interesting ones, anyway–are based on balance. If your character is a powerful witch, for example, her love interest might be a powerful diplomat or prince. Power comes in many forms. They should also have weakness as well. The witch might be brash and unyielding, while her love interest is cowardly and self-serving. They don't have to be complete opposites, but they should fill plot relevant roles that the other cannot.

'Sissy' can mean a lot of things, so I'm not 100% sure what you want to avoid, but it feels like you don't want him to look like a useless character next to your OP badass. Maybe try giving him different strengths that complement hers and vice versa.

Hope this helps :)

It does I love this answer. Thank you, See some people on here instead of trying to help you they tell you that its wrong or that I should just not do it or change it. But that makes me mad cause I'm a firm believer that there is always a loop whole where all the people that matter can win and be happy and when I read comments like that it makes me sad and changes my dream! Y'know when your really passionate about a story? My father and I have been building this story since I was six and its hard to completely change something that you feel tat attached too. Thank you :))))))

I'm so glad I could help! The best thing about writing a story is that it's first and foremost YOUR story. It's about writing the story you wish was on the book shelves. I saw your edit to the first post and, fun fact, Succubus means 'to lie under' in Latin, while Incubus means 'to lie on'. Also there's a number of myths about fairies that take humans as their consorts, usually kidnapping or in exchange for a deal.

Gracie

I have a female protagonist who's physically strong and capable in a fight, while her male love interest is a healer. I think writing relationships–healthy, interesting ones, anyway–are based on balance. If your character is a powerful witch, for example, her love interest might be a powerful diplomat or prince. Power comes in many forms. They should also have weakness as well. The witch might be brash and unyielding, while her love interest is cowardly and self-serving. They don't have to be complete opposites, but they should fill plot relevant roles that the other cannot.

'Sissy' can mean a lot of things, so I'm not 100% sure what you want to avoid, but it feels like you don't want him to look like a useless character next to your OP badass. Maybe try giving him different strengths that complement hers and vice versa.

Hope this helps :)

It does I love this answer. Thank you, See some people on here instead of trying to help you they tell you that its wrong or that I should just not do it or change it. But that makes me mad cause I'm a firm believer that there is always a loop whole where all the people that matter can win and be happy and when I read comments like that it makes me sad and changes my dream! Y'know when your really passionate about a story? My father and I have been building this story since I was six and its hard to completely change something that you feel tat attached too. Thank you :))))))

I'm so glad I could help! The best thing about writing a story is that it's first and foremost YOUR story. It's about writing the story you wish was on the book shelves. I saw your edit to the first post and, fun fact, Succubus means 'to lie under' in Latin, while Incubus means 'to lie on'. Also there's a number of myths about fairies that take humans as their consorts, usually kidnapping or in exchange for a deal.

Oh that's so cool! I know the difference between them it's just I wanted to get my point across and also I have been super obsessed with the show lost girl lately

Gracie

Before anyone else gets on to me about "female dominance is okay and beautiful too" YOUR RIGHT GUYS I absolutely LOVE it. It's so cool and amazing that people actually enjoy the content now but guys it's also ok to like the old. It's ok. The reverse role relationship is so cool! but if that is so, the traditional relationship is just as cool! I mean think of all the awesome people that we ship together in these relationships! They're all great! That's the thing that is so cool about writing, we get to make anything we want! Isn't that terrific?